Feeling like an absolute DOUCHE for posting this.

[XTC]

I hate getting sappy, especially to strangers but oh well, I figured most of you people are cool, so I would like your opinion at the matter at hand.


Alright, so there's this girl who I've know for a little over a year. Well, from the start of me knowing her, she was dating this guy who treated her like absolute shit. Constant verbal abuse. Anyway, she got pregnant with him and well eventually the guy who she was seeing slept with another woman while she was pregant. Well, she found out and broke up with him. All during this time, I was a really close personal friend of hers. She had the kid and for a few months wouldn't let him see their kid. Eventually, I talked to her and told her it wasn't about them, but it was about the kid and not letting him see the kid is unfair. She came to her senses and let him see the kid eventually.

Well, she told me now that she again feels that she loves him even though the guy has a new girl. To make matters worse, he hasn't shared a dime with her and lately has become dodgy about seeing the kid. I have also loaned her hundred of dollars for her to go through school and help out with the kid. I don't even really care if she pays me back. Anyway, Just the other day, she went over with their kid to suprise him. But he said his girlfriend was coming over and basically shut the door on her and the kid's face. She came to my place crying and I was just there for her, talking to her, comforting her. The guy also sends mix signals to her. Sometimes he tells her he has feelings for her, the next he tells her that he wants nothing to do with her emotionally. Since their breakup I have had more feelings for her. I once even asked her if her and I could be more than friends. She said sorry, we couldn't. But I really never told her how I felt about her. I really want to ask her again and tell her how I feel about her, but I am sorta nervous and I don't want to ruin the friendship we have , which is a very close one. I don't know. I guess the old saying goes.... "Nice guys finish last."

Thanks in advance for whoever responds.

XTC Reviewed by XTC on 08-10-2005. Feeling like an absolute DOUCHE for posting this. I hate getting sappy, especially to strangers but oh well, I figured most of you people are cool, so I would like your opinion at the matter at hand. Alright, so there's this girl who I've know for a little over a year. Well, from the start of me knowing her, she was dating this guy who treated her like absolute shit. Constant verbal abuse. Anyway, she got pregnant with him and well eventually the guy who she was seeing slept with another woman while she was pregant. Well, she found out Rating: 5

[somebody someone]

keep there for her... dont try and sway her mind tho, thats a bad thing to do, stay by her side when she needs and sooner or later she will come around... even if it is years

[The Piper]

your a good dude XTC just due whatever you think is right

[looseends]

damn we need more guys like you around. keep doing what you're doing. she'll eventually will get the message. hopefully she'll see the baby's daddy for who he really is...the daddy and nothing more.

[Hempamasta]

Well, I don't mean to be graphic.. but just because that dude gave his sperm doesn't really mean that he's the "dad", he just contributed to making him, if that makes any sense.

Clearly, you are being more of a "dad" by comforting the mom, just being there, giving money, etc.

Yeah XTC, you're a cool guy. Hopefully she'll see how much she means to you, and she'll come around sooner or later.

Good luck to both of you, and let us know how it turns out!

By the way, does the girl smoke weed?

EDIT: Holy Fuck! This is my 420th post! Let's all smoke a bowl or 6!

[XTC]

Well, I don't mean to be graphic.. but just because that dude gave his sperm doesn't really mean that he's the "dad", he just contributed to making him, if that makes any sense.

Clearly, you are being more of a "dad" by comforting the mom, just being there, giving money, etc.

Yeah XTC, you're a cool guy. Hopefully she'll see how much she means to you, and she'll come around sooner or later.

Good luck to both of you, and let us know how it turns out!

By the way, does the girl smoke weed?

She used to years back. I havent yet asked her if she would smoke up with me. I will sometime near though

[UniqueShadow08]

yea your a good guy, keep going at it. Ide say just tell her i meen what do you have to loose, a simple no.........i meen everyone gets denied but chances are she will say yes if you tell her what you feel like really.....

[sToNeDpEnGuIn420]

I agree with mostly everyone, id say just keep doing what your doing, but dont ask again yet, for chances of her then not wanting to be with you, or be friends would be less, IMO. Yup yup.

[Nochowderforyou]

Good for you XTC, you're a good man

I don't know what to tell you though. But if I were her though, I'd get rid of him altogether or she'll just end up getting hurt over and over again. I know that he is her babies dad and all, but a person doesn't need to be a biological father to be a father.

I hope some day she will find a real man who will treat her right. Just stand by her and help her out. It doesn't go unnoticed. Good luck. Peace.

[Killa.Kali]

wheres the guy live? i got a mind to go Joe Pesci style buck wild on his ass, i hate dead beat dads like that fuck em they arnt worthy of life.

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