Mr. Mary has been smoking again for almost 2 weeks and things around here are smooth sailing. I think I finally got it through to him that there is nothing wrong with a little stress relief, everything in moderation.

IA, I don't know what to say, maybe he's afraid you'll become dependant. The way I get my husband to agree to things is to make him think he has some how made the right choice. He likes to think he's in control, so I let him think he is at certain times. I don't know how to explain it....I hope you know what I mean.

I said, "You know we should really call (dealer) because you've been so stressed at work, and these kids are driving me crazy. I could use a break, couldn't you?" He said yes immediately and we've been smoking ever since. So it was my suggestion and I made it sound like it would be really good for him, too. But, ultimately it was his call, so he felt like the testosterone oozing manly man he thinks he is,....and, of course, he went for it.