How do you do it?

[RaoulDuke45]

im not to social but i have alot of friends, ive always been pretty shy and i make friends by being funny and playing sports, i made most of my really good friends playing football or basketball. i moved to a new school in 7th grade and hated all of junior high was a bit depressed in 7th for a while but in german class i was very social and made really good friends, but a good job is usally a great place to make friends

[rastabill89]

cool story penuglin dude though seriously ive read you talk about going on the bus and smoking in that girls closet right? im not going crazy or anything i hope

[MeatRulz]

i used to play magic in seventh grade and i stopped cause i hangout with black ppl and it just got gay anyway but anyway i have a lot of friends easiest way im thinkin of right now is get a job and get good friend there that smokes weed or somethin like that.

[4x4Turbo]

Okay. Here is my problem. People please respond. I'm really serious about this, It's kind of like..in all seriousness, but really funny.

Okay, How do you all become social?I don't mean social as in going around asking people to smoke one or anything like that. Just friends. I mean..How do you guys go out, make friends, and become what you are today? do you just blurt things out, or are you shy?OR is the computer the only friends you have?

I missed out on a lot of my social life because I hate people so damn much. But then today I realized. Where the hell am I?Here I sit online, with no real life friends, and what real life friends I do have, have their own lifes and don't pay much attention to me anymore.I'm not whinning or bitching, or anything. I'm just wondering. How do you guys do become so socially acceptable, or just talk to people in the real world. I'm really shy, and I'm 22 I'm a single mother, so people kind of look at me like "What the hell is she doing?" I don't know...

Please respond people..I'm serious for once. lol.

Are you in northern ky? I'm in cincy and we know how to have a good time

Not sure if your right across the river or not but if you are you should check out the night life in cincy. I'm a obsessed car enthusiast and there are always car meets going on every weekend in cincy. Motions night life was great last year. The main one right now is the CSR cruise in. Good turn out, decent music, pretty laid back. I love going their after smoking a couple blunts. Sounds like you need to get out more often
Not sure if thats your thing or not but to me its fun and pretty social.

[Ganj]

Okay. Here is my problem. People please respond. I'm really serious about this, It's kind of like..in all seriousness, but really funny.

Okay, How do you all become social?I don't mean social as in going around asking people to smoke one or anything like that. Just friends. I mean..How do you guys go out, make friends, and become what you are today? do you just blurt things out, or are you shy?OR is the computer the only friends you have?

I missed out on a lot of my social life because I hate people so damn much. But then today I realized. Where the hell am I?Here I sit online, with no real life friends, and what real life friends I do have, have their own lifes and don't pay much attention to me anymore.I'm not whinning or bitching, or anything. I'm just wondering. How do you guys do become so socially acceptable, or just talk to people in the real world. I'm really shy, and I'm 22 I'm a single mother, so people kind of look at me like "What the hell is she doing?" I don't know...

Please respond people..I'm serious for once. lol.

the key is not to be socially acceptable.

your 22 years old, if you haven't decided to get your life situated by now, when are you? who cares about having friends? you have a child to think about now. you don't need to be wondering what your friends are off doing, because unlike you, your friends have realized this...it's not hard to realize either. you have your own life , just like they do. i think it's time for you stop thinking about becoming socially acceptable and thinking about the precious, new life you have to help mold. i hope my words have helped you.

feel free to message me if you want to talk.

[ImStonedNILikeIt]

I've been to cincy before!I love that city!My ex boyfriend lives there. Ack. But it's a really cool place. I was around milford?I don't know if you know where that is but yea, I remember that place..

Ganj, you're right. I've always been independant,and Never reallly cared what others thought, guess i should go back to doing that.

Well thanks everyone1

[OzzyOz]

hmm well up untill this year ( 8th grade ) i didn't have too many good friends. Now, i know alot of people in my town and i many good friends in all different grades.


Schooling was the main reason for finding friends, you get so bored at school you need to hangout with someone in class to make the days go by quicker

[st0n3r]

my life is very random and i believe i am a very lucky person, haven't lost anyone incredibly close to me apart from my dog which i had for 15 years, i don't have any serious illness expect for depression which can be solved, i'm not a druggie or a alcoholic, all the drugs i take is hashish, cannabis and salvia. my friends live very close to me, but they are my closes buddies whenever i have a problem i can turn to them for advice, as well as my two brothers they fucking rock but they have been through ALOT of shit in there life so i guess i'm the lucky ones. my mum and dad live together, stable job, cosy house and hopefully i'm on my way to become a estimator on a construction site (once i can find a fucking apprientiship or something that will help me have experience, if anyone knows anything plz post about it below, ty)

well my social life has been like a say very random, wen i went 2 skool i met this guy called matt, was cool but now a total rat. his mum and dad are split and his dad lives in america. so for two summers i went to america, first time we went 4 six weeks, one week in phoenix, arizona, beautiful place, nice a hot, and the swimming resort rocks! then we went to the grand canyon, and afterwards had a nice long drive down to vegas for a few days, even though i'm only 17 i gambled a lil and drank a few beers lol. then for the rest of the time i was there we went back to matt's dad's house which was in littleton, colorado, we met a few friends, smoked out every nite, went to the ABC cinema like every nite and whneva we got hungry there woz a wendys, mcdonalds, kfc and a supermarket 2 minutes away, and also right behind the house there woz a huge park wiv a field and a skate ramps, it was reli beautiful we used 2 hang out there eveyr nite get stoned talk about life and there the times i miss.

then 4 the next summer i went to san antonio, texas 4 a week which woz abousetly amazing, we went to sea world, six flags, busch gardens and etc, and the temp woz 120 degrees pheww lol. and then for another 5 weeks we went back to colorado again, met our friends up again, which woz a reli amazing experience bcoz we haven't seen them in a year or so. but unfortunately my friend matt had fell out wiv his dad so he isn't in contact wiv him anymore so we can't go back and enjoy the good times.

the reason i'm telling you all this is to compare it to my life today, i work a 14:45-2200 shift on a sat, and a 07:30-12:30 on a sunday. mon-fri i have free due to the summer vacation, but whenever i go out, whether it's with friends, work buddies or etc, they just go down to the local park, not much fun but we have a reli reli big hill bout 75ft high, they just get drunk all the time, pick fights on ppl, insult one another, and most of them don't smoke with me which leaves just me and a few friends to smoke.

but currently i have got myself into bands with very good friends of mine, none of em smoke cannabis apart from myself and the lead singer who is pretty cool, so i have decided to hang about them more, even though my drummer can be a dick and reli piss me off which leads to my depression, but it's all good, we r close friends and we all get on like a house on fire.

so next time you say to have a reli big majority of friends, try and think. where ur best friends part of ur childhood like my band members? were they sumwhere on holiday which u always dream about? or is it a few indivudals who come ova ur house or go out wiv u 2 a quiet area gettin high with you? i'm not saying choose your friends wisely all i'm saying is that friendship can b decieving.

[4x4Turbo]

I've been to cincy before!I love that city!My ex boyfriend lives there. Ack. But it's a really cool place. I was around milford?I don't know if you know where that is but yea, I remember that place..

Ganj, you're right. I've always been independant,and Never reallly cared what others thought, guess i should go back to doing that.

Well thanks everyone1

Small world. I live in milford. If milford wasn't so green it would be a very boring place. We should smoke down if you ever plan on making a trip back up here.

[4252]

One of the best questions here in some time. Sorry if I become redundant; for once, I didn't actually read all the previous posts. It's Friday, I'm home from work, and getting stoned; so go figure.

Meeting people is the easiest, and also the hardest thing going, except for figuring out life, the universe, and everything.

If you just remember that most people are just like you, and would respond as you would, given the chance. If you're with a longtime friend, and start a conversation with something like "One brutal storm we had last night, your basement get flooded too?" It'd be perfectly natural. Why not say the same to a "stranger"? If you treat a stranger like a friend, they'll generally reciprocate. I found the best place to practice breaking ice is in a line at a store checkout counter, especially if something's holding things up. The person behind you has nothing better to do than talk to you (unless they're already talking to the person behind them). In that case, you just join the conversation.

Odd, but just yesterday I had lunch with a woman I didn't previously know, just because I'd had a few of those brief conversations in the line (at the pizza shop) a few times, and both she and I happened to be there alone that day. "Mind if I sit with you?" are often the most welcome words a person on their own would want to hear. And if they're not interested, no harm done.

So, in connecting with people, I guess the ground rules are; don't be afraid to speak to them, expect to get rejected from time to time and don't worry about it, and learn to read people as best you can (to avoid parasites, predators, etc.).

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