How do you do it?

[ImStonedNILikeIt]

Okay. Here is my problem. People please respond. I'm really serious about this, It's kind of like..in all seriousness, but really funny.

Okay, How do you all become social?I don't mean social as in going around asking people to smoke one or anything like that. Just friends. I mean..How do you guys go out, make friends, and become what you are today? do you just blurt things out, or are you shy?OR is the computer the only friends you have?

I missed out on a lot of my social life because I hate people so damn much. But then today I realized. Where the hell am I?Here I sit online, with no real life friends, and what real life friends I do have, have their own lifes and don't pay much attention to me anymore.I'm not whinning or bitching, or anything. I'm just wondering. How do you guys do become so socially acceptable, or just talk to people in the real world. I'm really shy, and I'm 22 I'm a single mother, so people kind of look at me like "What the hell is she doing?" I don't know...

Please respond people..I'm serious for once. lol.

ImStonedNILikeIt Reviewed by ImStonedNILikeIt on 07-28-2005. How do you do it? Okay. Here is my problem. People please respond. I'm really serious about this, It's kind of like..in all seriousness, but really funny. Okay, How do you all become social?I don't mean social as in going around asking people to smoke one or anything like that. Just friends. I mean..How do you guys go out, make friends, and become what you are today? do you just blurt things out, or are you shy?OR is the computer the only friends you have? I missed out on a lot of my social life because I Rating: 5

[ezjim]

getting out of the house for a few hours a day would be a good start..where i live we have a river that runs through town and most stoner types hang there in the warm parts of the year lots of beer drink and pretty girls and sunshine ..i used to drink in taverns when younger and met a lot of people there but most were not the happy kind of people i enjoy being around ...the best and oldest friends i have i met following the dead around .that and when i used to hitch hike [ been across the us 9 times on foot] like i said though get out for a few hours a day at least even if its just to the park or for a walk ..thats were i would start

[Lily420]

I find having friends a pest. Im someone who ares about everybody but when it comes to people not caring so much about me it just feels like a waste of time. Now my friends are more like aqaintances. I much perfur you guys to them.

I lost friends over stupid shit like i cant be friends witht hat person because my other friends dont like them or my friends want to try harder drugs but i wouldent give them any connections...its just stupid shit liek that that makes me wonder if anyone really is any good anymore.

If you find a good friend then hold on to them, people suck.

[sToNeDpEnGuIn420]

I know exactly what you mean. Like okay this year of school(coming up) i will bein 11th grade(lil behind on credits tho). Hmm okay well im just gonna go into my whole story...maybe it will help you(no im not trying to rip your thread or anything).

Okay well right now im 16 and going to be in 11th grade.I currently live in washington(the state). Well before i moved here i lived in so cal. I moved here right before 7th grade.Well my whole life i moved around every other grade. So im use to having to make new friends. At the time i moved up here i was really into magic the gathering(card game). So when i came up(it was literally the day before 7th grade we got here, cuz we drove).Anyways, so the next day i have to go to school. Of course its weird cuz theres not a single black person at the school, and only a few mexicans.(At this time im use to whites being the minorites). So after starting to go to school, i made like 1-2 friends and just hung with them the whole time at school. But once school got out i went to this card shop called gamequest.Gamequest was probably the best thing to happen to me.
So pretty much everyday around 4, id come to gamequest and just play magic all day(or board games or other games). I got to know everyone there and was really well liked. Well then a year passes and its now 8th grade. Im still playing magic, and even more into to it. So its the first tri of the year and i look at someones binder and i see he has a magic card on it(but it was a fake one made on the computer, that had totally outragous stats). So we start talking about it, and eventaully we deciede to hang out. Well i find out hes friends with all the skaters and some of them play magic. So after getting to know him and the rest of the skaters who played magic i started sitting at their table at lunch with them. This is when school started going good(8th grade was deff my favorite, just so many good times) Anyways, eventually by summer people started disliking magic so i also stopped playing. 8th grade summer was great, but after that it all started going down hill. Once 9th grade started and we went to high school EVERYTHING changed. At this time i wasnt really playing magic at all. All my 8th grade friends, had changed and all of them were trying to get with chicks. Well me and my long hair was still just triyng to have fun. So i started losing most my friends. Then in november i went back to so cal. And "re-met" this chick, whos name was cortnie. We hit it off really good when i went down there. So we deciede to keep in touch and try a long distance relationship thing. Well that didnt work and we ended up "breaking up" and this left me very depressed.(oh my first gf wasnt till the summer of 8th grade, i went out with her like most of summer but we only saw each other twice, rembeer it was my first relationship).So then i started getting even more deperessed. I started just becoming a hermit just staying home all the time just living in my room and playing on the computer. So everyone at school started calling me hermit and shit. Well my long hair didnt help to this. So i got even more depressed. I tried to kill myself a few times.And i started cutting. I went to counsleing and got put on anti deperessants.(this is all about....january-march. Then i end up cutting my hair and shit and start trying to be more social. So then its the last tri of 9th grade, its the begiing of april. Ive never smoked weed still(nor done any drug, always been scared). So im in english and this chick is high, and shes like no i dont do that..... and im like of course i dont do drugs either(jokingly) and shes like oh you smoke? and im like uhh yeah. So then her and her friend deciede we are gonna smoke, so they invite me. (her/my friend had never smoked neither had i, but i said i had) So we get on the bus and are going there. And on the bus im like guys....i lied ive never smoked. They didnt care, they are just like your dumb. So we go to her house and we get in her closet.She has a lil glass bowl. She takes a hit, the other chick does(coughs her brains out) Then i do, and i dont choke at all. i get about 2 more hits. THen we come out. Im just starting at all the shit on her wall, and shes like yelling at me. So anways after that i started smoking weed more. Then i started playing magic again. (Oh now i have no friends from 8th grade cuz they dont like me cuz i smoke weed). So i hang out with a diff set of ppl, in a badder part of town just smoking weed and shit all summer(This summer is the first itme i have sex).Oh also the beginging of 9th grade summer i moved out of my parents house and moved in with my grandma.(giving me more freedom). Then 10th grade comes around. So im still smoking weed, going stoned everyday. First tri goes by. Then second tri is here. I start skipping A LOT, only going 4th period and blah blah blah.(oh all my friends from 8th grade are back my friends, cuz they've come more acceptant to smoking weed, and thye drink with me and some smoke.) (oh i stop playing magic again too). So i end up basically dropping out for a week or two, and now im going to a new school, where i only go on mondays, and just get packets.(The reason i started going there is because i was fed up with all the stupid ppl at highschool). Then summer comes around(this summer) i start dealing, so my name and number gets around. So now ive got lots of friends(well ppl i deal to, but some are more and friends too). And here i am now.

[sToNeDpEnGuIn420]

^^ god damn i hope that makes you feel better, took like 20 mins to write.

[3 Sheets To The Wind]

Cool story Penguin, i;m sure many people won't bother to read it, as it's very long, but i want to get to know you and your past better, so yeh, that was basically your whole teenage life up to now on here.. sounds sort of the same as mine (apart from all the moving and playing magic and shit) as a lot of the people i considered best friends have deserted me, and now i only hang around with a few people, and they're lazy, always expecting me to go to their houses rather than them come to mine (free booze and fags, so it isn't all that bad)
So i hope i find some good friends when i go to college in September

[GHoSToKeR]

Awesome thread when there's this amount of stonage. Cool post, Penguin.

There was a point in my life when I always had loads of friends; they were all the 'cool' kids, but I didn't consider myself one... just a guy who hung with them. I dunno if that was true or not, and I don't care. I guess I just didn't ever feel like I totally fitted in. As far as I remember I was the first (or one of the first) out of all of us to smoke weed. Occasionally a friend would smoke a bit (it was usually the chicks) but I was the first 'stoner'. I instantly fell in weed, and even though I hung around with the same friends just the same, I was always then a bit 'different' because I smoked alot. Eventually, at parties and stuff, I met a load of stoners who were slightly older then me, and hung out with them most of the time.. it was awesome. For the first time in my life I had friends who enjoyed the same things as me, and the same music. But eventually my tastes started to change, and so did I, and gradually grew apart from them.. I went a while without many friends, or at least no close friends.. my 'social circle' seemed to me like just a bunch of random people. I became slightly depressed, and started occasionally doing speed and ecstacy, and got really into ecstacy.. I got to a point where me and friends were doing a few every Friday and Saturday... But I saw how fucking stupid I was being and then began to alienate what friends I had left. I stuck to weed from then on, and spent alot of time alone, but being really happy (probably coz of only smoking weed instead of getting wasted all the time) and doing the things I enjoy. That phase of my life went on for a while, until recently actually... I still have a load of friends, but they still just feel like acquiantances, as Lily so elegantly put it. But then through learning an instrument, joining a band and getting a new job i'm starting to go out alot more, and to socialise way more. But I still love getting stoned at home with some munchies and some really chill music... hehe

[ImStonedNILikeIt]

Thanks penguin for telling me all about your story. I feel a little bit better. I mean I see where your coming from.I dropped out of school when I was 16,and I kind of lost all of my friends when I did that, Except for one. We stayed friends forever because we were both stoners, well recently she stopped talking to me for reasons im not sure of yet, but we don't talk.I got used to the whole loner thing,and I hated people. Then I met my ex boyfriend,and we hung out a lot! I hung with his friends, got in his group, loved every minute of it. Then we broke up,and I moved away from there, and now i'm like back to the way things used to be.Lonely, except with a child once more. I don't like it, because I feel like the only conversation I have is with a 6month old child. I love spending time with him, but damn I just want some real friends, with real people,instead of a baby. My ex and I are still the best of friends but I rarely see him, and when I do see him. It's different, everyone kind of looks down on me now because he dumped me for a younger chick which they met,and like because she is an annoying little hot bitch, but as for me, I'm just a single mother who smokes a lot,and has no real life. I hate how one person could totally fuck up your life in just a matter of seconds, I guess I should've learned what my mom always said"Always depend on yourself to make yourself happy, keep yourself entertained because no one will stick around forever" Oh well..

I guess I should stop bein shy,and open up to people.Thanks everyone for trying to help.

[budbuzz420]

hehehe....nothing like a message board of loner stoners....well i fit in perfectly to the pity party....jk but i do. anyway im gonna be in 10th grade and god it sucks. i try to make friends but by now everyone is off in their own little clique and you cant be friends with them. so i basically started gettin depressed and all. almost killed myself on more than one occaision and things of that sort. anyway one thing that you might wanna try is chat. just click it at the top. the people here are mostly nice ive made a few friends and polished up on my social skills....try it out maybe it will work for ya


P.S. Stoned Penguin we are pretty much the same...i used to play mahic too but i entered a tournament at the local cardshop stoned and drunk and the owner was like your causin me trouble if i ever see you again i will call your parents....anyway peace

[Ocram]

I am convinced Born alone die alone yeah the Good o'l game of life i know how you all feel and it does suck at times... we gotta do what we gotta do so enjoy as much of it as you can cuz all times arent peachy...also now I am goin thru a period of hermetness....but that shall change in the near future I'm plannin on it...Hope for the best expect the worst and some things will be ok...this Joint is for you guys(lights up joint)....Later all enjoy!!!!