sounds like your kids will turn out ok jimbo,my dads alot like you exept when we were younger he drnk alot and wasn't too great,but the being a grocery store manager can't be too fun(even makeing 75,000 a year...)but it's still no exuse for his actions,but thats another story,i plan on leting my kids know early that theft,bigotry,blatent stupidity will not be tollorated,although i'll do so without force,it's better to be respected than feared...but i'm a good twenty years away from haveing kids,so i have plenty of time to think about it