Tastefully asking for rights to being friends who have sex.

[Ousted]

Thanks for that story Ousted, it was the table turner for me. ^^

I hope whatever the outcome that you both will be happy. Good luck with it and keep us updated!

[mmmresin]

Don't ask man, try to make it happen when you're with her and it feels like the time is right. Just let it happen, asking that shit straight out would make you look like an asshole.

if she wants it it will happen

[Encatuse]

Yeah. Im not gonna ask or anything. I guess I will ask, but in a "let it happen" fashion, like if she lays on me when we watch a movie or something, I'll kiss her, and if things escalate, they will. -shrugs- If they don't, then they don't.

But I won't be like "Wantz 2 haff sum sex too? and stay friendz dun worry!" like I originally thought was how friends who have sex worked. I haven't ever been in a situation like this where I broke up with someone with whom I wanted to continue being friends with, nor continue having sex with.

I haven't seen that seinfeld, but now I want to.

[Cheery Cherry]

You're right, I don't know the girl or you for that matter, and I apologize if I offered a bad advice. I hope things will work out for you and your friend. I guess I got the wrong impression when I first read your post. It is clear that you care for her.

Good luck.

[Encatuse]

Cheery, thanks. ^^ I do care for this girl alot. I just can't handle all the stressors of a relationship on top of being in college and maintaining a somewhat regular social life.

I read-read my first post and I could definately see how the wrong impression could be gotten. I needed to explain it more because it did sorta sound like I meant "I don't really like this girl, but I like fucking her. please help in this dilemna." -laughs-, and that's certainly lame.

[Juggalotus17]

Just hang out with her and make a move, but in a loving way. dont do no "yo take ya pants off babe, i wanna see that coochie again"...

do a little staring into her eyes and giving her that look, and work ya way back up to it.

[NightProwler]

dude just tell her u want her 2 be your girlfriend but youve got alot of shit going on at the moment.

[sToNeDpEnGuIn420]

Lol, be like. You like the sex we had right?(Her answer is of course yes because of course encatuse is obviously agreat lover) then you be like. OKay well wanna keep having sex? If she says no, just say okay. if she says yes. Have sex to celebrate it. *thumbs up*

[Encatuse]

-laughs- Im pretty sure she read this because she said something unusual. That would hugely annoy me. -laauugghss aggaaiiin-

Sometimes I need to think harder. What she said was positive, but still if I was going to be annoyed if she read it, I guess I shouldn't have posted it. She promised she wouldn't though. I'm unimpressed.

[Encatuse]

I don't think I can do it. I think I thought I was more detached then I am.

It seemed like a really good idea at the time. It was just so plausible. It has alot of potential for pain though, since we both like eachother.