Help!

[GHoSToKeR]

Okay, i'm gonna ask you guys for some advice..

There's this chick that i've met recently.. she's absolutely stunning, and I mean i've never met anyone as beautiful as her in my life.. I introduced her to the guys at work and they haven't stopped talking about her since, and they keep asking me about her.. All my male friends that know her are like in love with her, because she's also the coolest chick i've ever met.. But I never really had a proper conversation with her until recently, because there's always some random guys trying to chat to her, but the other night it ended up just me and her sitting outside a club smoking a joint, and it turns out we get on really well. We only went outside to smoke a joint at about 11:30pm, but we decided not to go back in and stayed there talking until 2:30am when everybody else left the club. Nothing happened between us that night, but I haven't been able to stop thinking about her since.. I like her a hell of alot, but because she's so attractive (I can't even describe how attractive she is, so im not gonna try) I don't have the balls to try and be anything more than friends with her.. I see hundreds of guys trying to chat her up but she says no %99 of the time, so why would she say yes to me, you know? I mean, I know she likes me (as in, she likes my personality) but I don't know if it's any more than that. She's 21, too, and i'm 18.. which is only 3 years, but its a hell of a difference when youre an 18 year odl guy and the chick is 21.. lol..

So, what the hell do I do about it? Do I just carry on being friends with her, and secretly obsessing over here as im talking to her, and just wait to see if anything comes of it, or do I 'make a move' and risk being rejected like every other guy that tries it on with her?

Thanks in advance, motherfuckers.


-GHoST-

GHoSToKeR Reviewed by GHoSToKeR on 07-18-2005. Help! Okay, i'm gonna ask you guys for some advice.. There's this chick that i've met recently.. she's absolutely stunning, and I mean i've never met anyone as beautiful as her in my life.. I introduced her to the guys at work and they haven't stopped talking about her since, and they keep asking me about her.. All my male friends that know her are like in love with her, because she's also the coolest chick i've ever met.. But I never really had a proper conversation with her until recently, Rating: 5

[LilRedDevil]

Awwwww!

Okay, I would say get to know her on a friend level first. If the two of you talked for that long then she must have some interest. I would ask her out for lunch or even to meet at the club. Keep it relaxed and easy going till you have more of a friendship.

You could also just tell her some of the things you said here like "she's absolutely stunning, and I mean i've never met anyone as beautiful as her in my life"

That could do it! lol!

Follow your heart dude! And good luck, keep us posted!

[Marek]

alright dude just listen, do it ask her out cause you'll never know. i was in the same spot you were i was friends with this girl and i liked her. so one day i just got the guts to ask her out....she said no LOL (thats not the point) but to this day we are still like best friends. The worst thing that can happen is that shes going to say no....so big fucking deal theres TONS of other girls...yeah i know people say that all the time but listen to the guy who was in your shoes theres nothing wrong with being friends she'll be your hot bud smokin friend.

[w4terb0ng]

all i can say is that if you like the girl THAT much... don't sit around on your ass
waiting for something to happen. you'd better do something about it before it's too late and some other guy snatches her up. i would recommend getting a little closer first, as mentioned above....just don't take forever doing it. it's better to take that risk of looking like an idiot than to have never known what may have been. i'm telling you dude... if you like her that much, don't let her get away from you simply because you are scared to do something about it. GOOD LUCK man, i hope everything works out for you.

[BlueCat]

Be confident Ghost....self confidence is a turn on.

[GHoSToKeR]

Hey, Thanks guys.. I guess the general vibe of your replies is 'don't be a pussy', lol

BlueCat, I don't appear to be unconfident, and usually i'm not.. it's not like I go trying to chat up girls all the time, but I don't usually get nervous around them like alot of guys.. it's just with her I can't seem to get the balls to do it.. i've never liked anyone this much so soon before, which is kinda crazy...

What's bugging me the most is that she's an 'older' chick, which makes it that much more difficult.. plus she's so stunning, and i'm just an 'average' looking guy. It's gonna take some serious balls (or seriously good weed) to get me to even think about contemplating maybe possibly in the future sometime maybe thinking about getting the courage to ask her out.. or who knows, maybe it'll just happen?

PS... She just sent me a text message, so I asked if she wanted to come out tomorrow.. hehe.. it's a cool situation coz some mutual friends will be there too, and my band is playing so I get to impress her by rocking out lmao

[Lily420]

*teardrop* Oh ghost your hitting puberty lol im just playin.

I think you should get to know her more, and then if you feel she might have an interest in you then ask her out. The important thing is to treat her like any other girl because when a girl is so beautiful guys treat her diffrent than other girls, ya know? If she really does like you then you being 18 shouldent matter. Best of luck ghost im rooting for ya! Go get em tiger

[GHoSToKeR]

hey, thanks lil

I just got off the phone to her.. She's coming to watch my band play tomorrow, and I said I didn't know what time I would get there.. and she was like 'well if you're gonna be out before the rest of the guys then give me a ring and we'll go for a drink before meeting them'. man, i'm so happy! hehe

[F L E S H]

GHoST, this is my advice, and it's always worked for me with girls that I really liked in the past: Just keep up what you're doing now. Take the time to be friends for a few days/weeks or whatever. Be yourself and become good friends. You seem like a cool, level-headed kind of gyu who can always come up with a good conversation, so I say keep that up and things will progress naturally... First you go out for a drink a couple of times, you get closer, you get to know each other a little better everytime... A well-placed "I think you're really cool" or "I like hanging out with you a lot" can lead to many, and more importantly fun, things

[GHoSToKeR]

Cheers F L E S H, I appreciate the vote of confidence dude..

Wow, i'm totally infatuated with this chick... Everyone seems to have noticed, too.. Every time someone asks if I wanna go somewhere but i'm not too keen they'll say "C might be there" (not gonna say her real name) to try and convince me to go.. lol

That's good advice, F L E S H.. maybe you've been giving her advice, too, coz she was just saying things like "it was really nice talking to just you the other night..."...

But now i'm feeling nervous about meeting her tomorrow, which is something i'm not used to.. lol Any advice?