I think that we are doing things backwards .... fall in love at a young age, without really knowing ourselves or our place in the world. Maybe our instincts tell us that we want kids, or society just tells us that is the next step. Kids need the stability of the home, so marriage seems to be the best option at that point. So there we are: young, married, kids, and not knowing much about who we are, where we're going, or where we're gonna end up. TILL DEATH DO US PART. Success is random, and we haven't learned any lessons from the past.


From my perspective now, I think that men and women need to find their place in the world (alone), for the first 35 to 45 years. At that point, they know enough about themselves and to find a compatable partner to decide how to proceed ...