I wouldn't go as far as to say that fate/desitiny doesn't exist, but I think the definition of it for me is a bit different. I think we existed before we came to earth, and lived in a pre-existance where we picked up certain traits/talents/knowledge, but when we were placed here on earth a veil was placed upon us..

But I think that through expierences some of these certain traits can get picked up, or are real personalities start to shine out, which is why I think some people can be "Destined" to do something, this doesn't mean they had to do it, but rather that they had a great chance of it.

Everyones here for I reason in my opinion. We aren't here to live out a routine lifestyle like a mindless, heartless, robot.. But thats just an opinion =)