I'm a bit hesitant to give any advice since if your both minors and there's a three year difference between you then one of you is at least 14 if not younger. My guess is it's the girl. If some 17yo guy comes around when my daughter's 14....well....let's just say I won't be too happy either.

That being said, I was in the same position as you 9 years ago. I was white and my girlfriend was Chinese (actually living in China as was I at the time) and, ironically, there was a three year differnce between us. She was 23 at the time, however, not 14, you perverted cradle robber!! Just kidding, sort of.

Anyhow when she first told her parents they wouldn't stand for it. Her mother actually got on a bus and took the 8hr ride from her hometown to Shanghai to talk my girlfriend out of it. They forbid my girlfriend from ever seeing me again but she continually resisted and eventually they agreed to meet me. The first meeting was a bit shakey, not as bad as yours was but then again SHE WASN'T 14, but we kept the pressure on. Basically we kept showing them that we loved each other. I was also very careful to respect their culture and not do anything to offend them. Over time the gradually accepted the fact that their daughters happiness was what was most important.

Well, like I said that was 9 years ago and as of last May we've been married for 8 years. I now get along great with my in-laws and spent nearly all of last February(Chinese New Year) with my wife's whole family back in China. My Mother-in-law always tells me that she knows I'm a good husband because her daughter is always happy. I may be a crazy round-eye but now I'm one of the family.

So, my first advice is to find an older gf. But if you insist on seeing her make sure her parents know you care about her. Always be polite "yes sir", "no mam", "thank you", "please" , etc when talking with them. Make sure you always get her home in time and for God's sake make sure you ALWAYS use protection and DO NOT get her pregnant. Hopefully, if they see she's happy, they'll gradually learn to accept the fact that their daughter is dating an old pervert.