yeah but seriously ive seen alot of people abusing their g/f's and b/f's and its pretty sick. I'm glad that I think i have the right philosophy: Just love your partner and never be purposly mean and hurtful. If something comes along where you have to be mean but its for their own good then you just have to trust your judgment. For example I try to spend alot of time doing what my g/f likes (martial arts) and just spending time with her. But I also like to buy her stuff out the wazzoo but for some reason she doesn't like it. She thinks I spoil her, but she deserves it.