When I was younger I always used to say that I'd be a totally cool father and would let my kids smoke or even give them weed. Now that I'm 35 and have a 2 year old daughter I'm not so sure. Mainly because I was a total fuck-up in school, hung around witht the wrong crowd, got really bad grades, and had a few really tough years before I got my life together. I guess I just want better for her. What father wouldn't.

This isn't to say that anyone who smokes pot will be a fuck up. I smoke now and am the farthest thing from the stereotypical "stoner" that you could imagine. It's just that being a "stoner" was a big part of who I was in high school and its hard to imagine my little girl in the same place.

So, like Dr. Gonzo I don't plan on smoking in front of her. I will make it clear from a very early age that she can talk to me about anything and if that anything happens to be drugs I'll be totally honest with her. I will educate but not advocate.

In your case mlleyeuxbleus I would recommend taking a neutral stance with your cousin. She's a minor and her mother is entrusting her to your care so you need to respect her own Mother's rules. Or at least not help your cousin break them. If you think she's doing it you may choose to look the other way but don't let her know you know. That way you don't look like a hypocrite but don't give anyone the idea that you approve of it either. If she comes right out and asks you just apologize and tell her you have to respect her mother's wishes. Once she's 18 though, she'll always have a toke buddy. Hopefully she'll understand. If not now, she will someday.
Fengzi Reviewed by Fengzi on . Question for Parents I'm curious about your policies regarding your kids, especially teens, & smoking. Here's my sitch: I have a 15 yr. old cousin visiting me from out-of-state for a couple of weeks. She has smoked, & openly admitted it to me (I'm nearly 28, & sortof a cool big sis figure). When she asked if I did, I admitted it because I'm not big on lying & deceit. She hasn't really pushed the issue of smoking much since she arrived, & I'm reluctant to do it with her (I don't want her mom to find out & Rating: 5