Question for Parents

[Cheery Cherry]

When I was about 15 or 16, I told my dad, who smoked pot openly, that I smoke too. He didn't say I had to stop, but he didn't smoke with me until I was about 18 or 19. I respected that and I understood it. No hard feelings at all.

When I was about 25, I had a 15-year-old nephew, who thought I was a cool person, and I did smoke some weed with him, once. It cost me our relationship and the whole family was pissed at me because when some shit (long story) happened, the nephew mentioned smoking pot with me and the wrong family member heard it. The relationship with me and the family hasn't been the same since..so I would definitely let your cousin know that even though you smoke and you understand that he smokes, you don't wish to smoke with him until he is at least 18.

[Fengzi]

When I was younger I always used to say that I'd be a totally cool father and would let my kids smoke or even give them weed. Now that I'm 35 and have a 2 year old daughter I'm not so sure. Mainly because I was a total fuck-up in school, hung around witht the wrong crowd, got really bad grades, and had a few really tough years before I got my life together. I guess I just want better for her. What father wouldn't.

This isn't to say that anyone who smokes pot will be a fuck up. I smoke now and am the farthest thing from the stereotypical "stoner" that you could imagine. It's just that being a "stoner" was a big part of who I was in high school and its hard to imagine my little girl in the same place.

So, like Dr. Gonzo I don't plan on smoking in front of her. I will make it clear from a very early age that she can talk to me about anything and if that anything happens to be drugs I'll be totally honest with her. I will educate but not advocate.

In your case mlleyeuxbleus I would recommend taking a neutral stance with your cousin. She's a minor and her mother is entrusting her to your care so you need to respect her own Mother's rules. Or at least not help your cousin break them. If you think she's doing it you may choose to look the other way but don't let her know you know. That way you don't look like a hypocrite but don't give anyone the idea that you approve of it either. If she comes right out and asks you just apologize and tell her you have to respect her mother's wishes. Once she's 18 though, she'll always have a toke buddy. Hopefully she'll understand. If not now, she will someday.

[NowhereMan]

well u could leave a bud out for her,at best
and not at worst
but its a judgement call only you could make
peace

[ScarlettCrush]

I found a book though I haven't read it so I can't say how good it is. Great review in Cannabis Culture cut and pasted for her pleasure.

This is a book whose time has come, a book to help pot-smoking parents explain marijuanna and prohibition to their kids. Beautifully illustrated and clearly written, this book introduces children to the medical and recreational uses of pot, outlines the plant's botany and uses, and explains the history of prohibition and how activists are working to change the law.
The story begins with little Jackie waking up past her bedtime, and smelling "something funny" in the air. She finds her parents smoking a joint, and so the next day Jackie's mom takes her on a bike ride to discuss marijuana. They visit Farmer Bob who grows organic buds, Dr. Eden who explains medicinal use, and some police officers who describe the state of the laws. The story ends with Jackie declaring "When I grow up, I am going to vote so I can make all the laws fair."

www.justaplant.com

[jacquelyne]

Thats a hard one there.I was in the same situation but with alcohol with my 15 year old nephew at one time.He came to stay with me for 2 weeks.We had alot of fun and i let him have a few drinks he begged me and i put a cigarette in his mouth (not lit) and a beer and took a photo and sent it to my brother (his dad) hes a bit strict in that way it was all in fun.I still have those photos and they are one of the greatest memories of my life.He is about to turn 18 he has been in hospital since he was 16 from a car accident and doubt he will ever eat, walk, talk, laugh ever again.All he does is lay in a bed all day in the brain injury unit and soon has to go to a nursing home.He was my lil man i loved him so much and still do he was born when i was 10 and i am so happy that i let him do that with me being his aunt i knew he was protected and now that is one thing he will never ever be able to do again.Off this subject now do what you like with your cousin its your choice

[muncheemama]

my mom and dad smoked since I can remember, fairly openly...but they never smoked with me until I was 18 and had my own apartment. I wouldnt say I am messed up now because I saw my parents getting high, but I am glad that they waited until I was an adult to smoke with me because I always had strong parental guidance. When kids start drinking and stuff with their parents they get a mixed message about right and wrong. Parents need to stay parents until their kids are grown up.

[mynameismike0]

i decided that i'm going to try to teach my kids to be good kids, and not have them smoke, but once i catch them or they come forward with it i'll be cool with it.

[mlleyeuxbleus]

Thank you all so much for the advice & insight! Scarlett, that book sounds great; I will definitely check it out... especially since she may be moving in with me.

[HighTimeStoner]

Are you married? If so what does your hubby say about it?
My wife has a 15yr old sister that comes and stayes the night with us all the time she always brings her 15yr old best friend.
My wife will be 25 Aug. 3rd and I will be 27 Aug 27th.
We are pretty laid back people they are around alot and know alot about our biz.
We smoke with them BUT I put their asses on a limit(Cause they act friggin stupid).
God what I would give to go back to my first days of getting high again shit how time flies.
Anyways I use to get high as a kid and I still get high now about 10yrs as a smoker and about 2yrs as a grower.
I will get high till I am to old and feeble to hit my blunt, bong, joint, pipe or my hooka.
I wish I had a friend/relitive that got me high when I was younger as I got myself into some shit several times trying to get it for myself.
My rule is I would rather them do it with me then somewhere anything could happen.
Also depends if you can trust them enough to keep the skinny to themselves more so if you are a grower also.
Just think about it weed isnt a bad drug but do what you wanna do we all respond different to the drugs I am pretty laid back but I have seen some that would wig the fuck out if they dont have some herb which I call strung out fuckers and I distance myself from the weak minded people.

[mlleyeuxbleus]

HighTime... I'm definitely not married, so no such creature exists, lol. It'll definitely be nicer when she's older & we can just chill together without the worry. For now, I just look forward to bedtime.