Question for Parents

[mlleyeuxbleus]

I'm curious about your policies regarding your kids, especially teens, & smoking. Here's my sitch: I have a 15 yr. old cousin visiting me from out-of-state for a couple of weeks. She has smoked, & openly admitted it to me (I'm nearly 28, & sortof a cool big sis figure). When she asked if I did, I admitted it because I'm not big on lying & deceit. She hasn't really pushed the issue of smoking much since she arrived, & I'm reluctant to do it with her (I don't want her mom to find out & forbid her to visit).

Any parents or others with younger relatives have insight to share? My thoughts are that when she turns 18, I would smoke with her if she wanted; I just don't think it's wise to do it with her as a juvenile. As a sidebar, there's a chance she may end up moving in with me (crazy homelife back home for her, etc.), so that's added incentive for me *not* to smoke around her, at least not til she's a legal adult.

I guess I've sorta formed my own decision, but am interested in hearing how others have handled stuff like this.

mlleyeuxbleus Reviewed by mlleyeuxbleus on 06-22-2005. Question for Parents I'm curious about your policies regarding your kids, especially teens, & smoking. Here's my sitch: I have a 15 yr. old cousin visiting me from out-of-state for a couple of weeks. She has smoked, & openly admitted it to me (I'm nearly 28, & sortof a cool big sis figure). When she asked if I did, I admitted it because I'm not big on lying & deceit. She hasn't really pushed the issue of smoking much since she arrived, & I'm reluctant to do it with her (I don't want her mom to find out & Rating: 5

[ScarlettCrush]

I think you have good handle on it. Are you going to tell her you smoke as well?
I might tell her, but not smoke out with her. I'm wierd about smoking with family members, though my uncle joe used to pay me a joint an hour to babysit for him. lol

[mlleyeuxbleus]

Thanks. Yes, she did ask, & I admitted that I do smoke; there's no point in lying to a 15-yr. old... she'd probably find out eventually anyway, & it's not something I'm ashamed about.

Thanks for the input!

[Juggalotus17]

Well I don't have kids, nor a younger relative who would put me in a position like this but I do have a younger sister growing up and this is what I plan on doing with her...

As long as she's mature, responsible, gets good grades, and doesn't use it for personal problems, depression or something stupid like that then I'd allow it. I'd tell her if she wants to do it, she has to smoke WITH ME, or she has to tell me when she's smoking/high. Make sure she gets her weed from me, and don't let her get it from someone who might lace it or whatever.

If she SMOKED before, then I wouldn't smoke with her unless she asks. If she SMOKES, then just blaze one day with her around and ask her if she wants to.. then explain to her if shes going to be smoking with you, then you have to lay down some ground rules *see above*.

[ScarlettCrush]

weed is actually good for treating depression, since I have been smoking my dosage (of prescription antidepressants) has decreased.

[Juggalotus17]

Well you have clinical depression (assuming thats the medical term for real depression?)

most "depression" is just teenagers sulking about their recent boyfriends dumping their skanky ass cause she wouldn't put out and he was tired of it. And then taking their sulking to the extremes by carving a canyon into their wrists, and start wearing all black and gothic type cloths and falling in love with linkin park.

^^ happens all the time around here

[Lily420]

When I have kids im gunna try and bring that kid out in me whenever im around them...you kno dance like crazy, eat lots and lots of candy, sing really freakin loud....just show them a good time and at the same time teach them whats right and whats wrong. When I was little my mom used to yell and hit me a lot and im gunna make sure i dont do that. Im looking forward to it.

As for weed...if can smoke weed why shouldent they? But i'de only alowed marijuana, and shrooms to be acceptable for them to take. I dont really mind how old they are. Looking forward to this too.

[beatpixie]

well I'm in the same boat as you. My sister just turned 18 and I'm nearly 28 myself. She isn't really into it though to be honest but I would definitely feel wierd about it, but now that she's over 18 it makes a little difference. I have a two year old and I would MUCH rather her come to me when she is in her teenage years and tell me that she is smoking rather than drinking. I've never really seen a violent pot smoker who goes and gets in their car and drives around (me I"m a lazy smoker lol) and ive never heard of pot poisoning like alcohol poisoning. But I don't think I would ever smoke with my daughter not until I was like ninety and takin it medicinally and she brought me some at like her age of sixty something haha
But I don't think I would punish her as a teenager for smoking, but I wouldn't let her do it , say , in her bedroom either.

[IrieAllie]

Having 2 young kids here, I know that I wouldn't openly light up in front of them. Just as I don't want to the the strict mother that MY mom was, I don't want to be the mom who doesn't give a shit, and raises her kids to have the same attitude. Will they smoke when they get older? Probably--and probably do alot of other stuff as well. I don't ever want my kids to be afraid to tell me anything...I am open minded, and have done a LOT of shit in my past as well. I think that making mistakes, experimenting, etc., shapes who you are as an adult. Everything I have done, good or bad, has made me who I am now, so I am cool with everything. (I also have a leg up on knowing what my kids are into because of that )With that said, would I take a 15 year old and blaze? hell no... 18 years old, if it wasn't MY kid, yes.

[DrGonzo]

age really doesn't mean much to me personally...I would think, with a couple simple rules to follow (juggalotus has some good ones) why not? She's smoked before, you are a smoker, just make sure she's not being a scavenger smoker! Make her pitch in if she's going to be smoking your session.

with my daughter, I don't plan to be plain and open (I can't exactly roll up and blaze around the wife anyways) UNTIL she asks me about it. Hopefully she'll grow up knowing she can talk to me about anything...at which point I'll give her the lowdown. Namely, don't trust dealers if you've never met their mother, don't EVER pay more than 10 a gram, and don't get caught by mom (just like me lol)

Other than that, I'd smoke with her. I'd like to think I'm a cool dad like that, and I'd feel better if I had a grasp on what kind of stoned person she is. Besides which, I know for a fact how much fun it is to smoke a joint, or chew up some mushrooms, or even (once in a blue moon) do a couple lines...how can I then say to my own daughter, 'drugs are bad, don't do drugs, because if you do them, you're bad, mmmmkay?'