So confused...

[Greensworth]

OK... 11 months ago i broke up with my girlfriend of 15 months. I loved her with my whole heart. She was amazing. We broke up because i was moving away. I still loved her. I didn't want to break up with her. She didn't want to break up with me. About 2 weeks after we broke up i couldn't take it anymore. I called her and asked her if we could talk.

I broke down, i told her i still loved her and she turned me down. The very night before she was all like making out with this guy at some party or what not. I didn't know. Needless to say i cryed. I balled my eyes out. I don't cry. Only time i cryed was before I was 10 and when my cousin died (he was like my brother. He ended his own life.) But i missed her. Then it turns out she went to see him which is a 5 hour drive. Didn't she break up with me because i was moving. I was only 3 HOURS away. But anyway the past is just that... past.
But......... I still miss her. But i think only because I am single. I mean i think about all the good times we had and how i wish i had someone new to do all those things with over but i don't have anyone new i just have memories, so i miss her. I wish i could have a new girl friend. And just move on... i cannot. I just. I don't know. What is up. Why can't i move on!?

A while back her and my best friend like played strip poker and made out with each other and that was fucking not a good time. I Bent a knife in my leg i was trying to put it into my leg but it didn't slice it just bent. I didn't talk to her for a couple months. Now i am talk to her it's all good kinda. But i find out she is moving and she will be living with the guy she all made out with and such and i got jealous i got like a weird feeling in my stomach.

Please help me out here tell me what to do tell me this will stop sucking so much and go back to before we even went out.



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Greensworth Reviewed by Greensworth on 06-14-2005. So confused... OK... 11 months ago i broke up with my girlfriend of 15 months. I loved her with my whole heart. She was amazing. We broke up because i was moving away. I still loved her. I didn't want to break up with her. She didn't want to break up with me. About 2 weeks after we broke up i couldn't take it anymore. I called her and asked her if we could talk. I broke down, i told her i still loved her and she turned me down. The very night before she was all like making out with this guy at some Rating: 5

[justinsane]

damn that situation sucks... what i do, is if i ever catch myself thinking about the past, i immediatly change what im thinking about ... the past is the past and it cant be changed, so work for a better future, fuck her, shes obviously no good, go out, party, smoke a few, just forget about her man, you want someone who will love you back... and someone who lives closer obviously....

[Greensworth]

damn that situation sucks... what i do, is if i ever catch myself thinking about the past, i immediatly change what im thinking about ... the past is the past and it cant be changed, so work for a better future, fuck her, shes obviously no good, go out, party, smoke a few, just forget about her man, you want someone who will love you back... and someone who lives closer obviously....

Good advice. I really appreciate it. If i could though, i want to ask for a woman's opinion. It would help i think.

[mand]

Greensworth darling, listen love I have the feeling here that I'm old enough to be you're mum, so firstly I want to tell you do not start trying to hurt you're self ..........that will just make things worse.

As for the girl, well I think it's pretty obvious from what you say it's time to forget her and move on, you have a lot of love to give and I am pretty sure that you will find a girl who will appreciate that and love you back .
Yes darling it will hurt when you think about her but with time it will subside and when you meet someone new you will wonder why you bothered.
Trust me I've been in love and hurt quite a few times , but I'm still here and I have a great life.

Greensworth honestly the pain will go with time, so get you're self out with you're friends go to parties, get stoned, get drunk and have fun, eventually you will meet the girl for you


love Amanda x

[henrypj]

although until then its gona be hell, theres no way around it. but you gotta try really hard now not to go off the rails as its quite easy. dont get addicted to anything, really make an effort to make new friends and live life to the full and it'll be over much quicker.

amanda your well nice! which part of the uk, london?

[Fengzi]

Sounds like you miss the idea of her more than you actually miss her. I was together with a girl for 6 years. I was sent overseas for a year and shortly before I was about to leave she said she didn't want to wait for me to get back and wanted to end our relationship. I was crushed at first and the couple of months before I left were terrible. Once I got to the new country and started to meet new people, however, I soon realized I didn't miss her anymore. Looking back on it I can see we stayed together for so long more out of habit than anything else. Our relationship simply wasn't meant to be.

Since then I've met a wonderful woman who I love very much. We just recently celebrated our 8th wedding anniversary and will soon celebrate our daughters 2nd birthday. I couldn't be happier. The first year of our relationship was pretty tough though as we were separated by a 10hr plane trip and didn't see each other for 6 months. As tough as it was we worked through it because our relationship WAS meant to be.

So, like I was when my old girlfriend first broke up with me, you are feeling very hurt, depressed, and confused. But, like I di, and others have said, you'll get over it an move on. Your relationship with that girl wasn't meant to be. You'll know when you find one that is. Hang tough until then.

[mand]

amanda your well nice! which part of the uk, london?[/QUOTE]



Thanks for that love, compelements always wellcome

I'm from the Nottinginham area love .........


love mand x

[mand]

I'll try and spell that again............ compliments.........that's better


love mand x

[slipknotpsycho]

i've been in these situations.....multiple times. but there were other reasons why i broke up wtih them...back when i was 15 espcially i had somethign happen like this...to t his day (nearly 5 years later) i still think about her from time to time but with time it will pass. all i can say is stop looking for what you had in the past and create new memories and new experiences and with time it will past, but it will never fade completely and it shouldn't. you need memories like those. those type of memories keep people going and show you how good life can be. so go find you a new girl and TRY (i say try becasue i know it's impossible just to forget) to forget about it. just realize that those times are gone. like you said the past is the past. move on to a new and hopefully better future.....hope this helps...

[BluntArtist]

Just become an alcoholic...just play'n. I was in the same situation but my ex got a full ride to play volleyball at a school 7 hours away...we tried to make it work but it was just too hard on both of us...we started seeing other people and after a while (and getting rid of all of her pictures, shit that reminded me of her, etc.) I learned from my relationship, grew as a person, and found myself to be a little more mature about things.