oh...and i didn't vote because it's not my view to tell you what to do with you and your wife's sex life. one more thing to ponder...my husband and i have been swinging for over 10 years and if your wife is putting stipulations on your "gift" then what kind of gift is that? you two better talk this out thouroughly before something she thought would be cool might turn out sour. you don't want to wreck a good marriage outta this if you don't do your research. good luck honey