I think it would help to put an end to any support; loans, borrowing, letting her in because she forgot her key. etc. It's a mistake to enable a parasite. You may be kind hearted, and find this difficult. I think she senses a vulnerability in you, and is taking advantage of it willfully. I have seen this kind of thing before, and believe that if you could percieve her true motives, you'd have no trouble throwing her out, you'd be so mad. She may very well be acting out the irresponsibility and lack of self reliance just to be able to victimize you, and others. There are people who make a lifestyle out of this kind of behavior, and they can get pretty good at it.

I wish you luck; one of the hardest things to do is to rid yourself of a loser once they get the psychological hooks into you. Get past this and I'll bet you won't let it happen again. I know I didn't.

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