i never said adoption was a totally bad idea...i just think, especially in a situation as this, all decisions and possible outcomes be considered from how their life will be DRASTICLY changed to how the baby will fare. and yes i was alive, but that doesn't mean i was happy about it....it took me to atleast the age of 17 to understand what happened to me and why. that doesn't mean all adpoted kids will think the same. i can only express my feelings on the subject. most of my life was literally spent wondering what i ever did to my parents to make them hate me enough to give me up, yet keep my brothers. anyways this is their decision and i look forward to hearing what they chose to do whatever it may be. i wish the best and happiness for them aswell. and i didn't take it as disrespect Cheery Cherry. everything you are saying is a good point.