Pro-Choice

[IrieAllie]

Well, sorry to hear of your situation. I am 35 now, with 2 kids of my own, and very happily married. I do, however, remember the days of worrying about sex that wasn't all that safe. NOW...that is not to say that it cannot be done. But you BOTh better be real ready for the responsibilty of not only HAVING a child, but being there to RAISE it. Your age dictates NOTHING. It does not give you the right to say "I'm ONLY 16, 17, whatever" and I DESERVE to do what my friends do. Age goes out the window when you are raising a child. Your baby doesn't know--nor cares--how old YOU are. Do you see the pattern here? Once a child comes into your life, it's NO LONGER ABOUT YOU. With that said, I am a pro-life gal--being that I've had 4 miscarriages before having my 2 healthy ones, I understand the "beauty" of a healthy child. HOWEVER, I was 28 when my first was born and 29 with my 2nd. Even then, WHAT an adjustment....just little things...wanna go out to breakfast at 2 am? Nope. Want to go camping for a weekend with yor friends? Forget it. Didn't really used to be until I had kids of my own, and I don't knock anyone for their opinion. I mean, there's the old saying "You made your bed, you lie in it." Yes, there are options out there....I have 2 friends who had abortions in their early 20's....just a fluke, a one night stand, or a mistake....but it is something they NEVER go a day without thinking about. No matter your choice, (even as an older person in the group), you will always wonder about the "what ifs". You are in a tough place, my friend. And I do feel for the both of you. No matter what decision you two make, it will be something that you will live with the rest of your lives. Unfortunately, there is NO easy decision here. And only the two of you can make it. I wish you love, luck, happiness and joy, whatever you decide. peace

[mellow mood]

this is my opinion, but i think u cant have a baby so young. u have to live your life when your young and to taste it, while u have no responsabilities. youll have to get a job, and to study, and so she will have too. i guess abortion is the solution, even if im kinda against it.

sorry but your stupid if you didnt protect yourself knowing she would have a lot of chances to get pregnant. now assume your acts...

[Cheery Cherry]

but you can't just say becasue of her age she's not ready.

With all due respect, I just did.

If she really was mature, she would've used protection or chose abstinence. I work around a lot of teenagers and although some are more mature than others, I have not met one (at the age of 16) that I felt could totally handle having a child and be truly happy with their life. Unless being a mother is the only goal in her life, she will have regrets. Why make your life harder than it already is? This is HER time right now to find herself, make a few mistakes and be forgiven for it, party a little and socialize, finish school, be out on her own, hang out with friends, and spend her hard earned money on herself!

The decision is totally theirs...either way, I truly wish them luck and happiness .

[makor01]

nothing better to make someone grow up tho.

[maryjanemama]

You know, just because she is pregnant does not mean they didn't use protection, condoms break, even the pill is only 98% effective. Also if she was on the pill and took antibiotics they can reduce effectiveness. I think we should all stop being so high and mighty and help with the situatation now, not point fingers at what they should've done because none of us know for sure what happened.I know women who have unexpected pregnancies in their thirties, these things happen all of the time, not just to teens.

That said, I think you should really consider giving the child up for adoption. I see ads in the paper all of the time from professional couples looking for a willing mother to adopt from.

[mellow mood]

we did not pointed fingers or whatever. first, bweuh, were u protected? if yes, well at least u were responsable, but if u didnt, as i said, assume your acts. and i think yes she should get aborted. good luck anyway man and good luck to her...

[slipknotpsycho]

i never said adoption was a totally bad idea...i just think, especially in a situation as this, all decisions and possible outcomes be considered from how their life will be DRASTICLY changed to how the baby will fare. and yes i was alive, but that doesn't mean i was happy about it....it took me to atleast the age of 17 to understand what happened to me and why. that doesn't mean all adpoted kids will think the same. i can only express my feelings on the subject. most of my life was literally spent wondering what i ever did to my parents to make them hate me enough to give me up, yet keep my brothers. anyways this is their decision and i look forward to hearing what they chose to do whatever it may be. i wish the best and happiness for them aswell. and i didn't take it as disrespect Cheery Cherry. everything you are saying is a good point.

[Cheery Cherry]

(((SlipKnot))) Just know that it wasn't anything that you did. I too was adopted and it hurts, I know...but hey, it made me a stronger person and makes me appreciate my kids that much more!

[Euphoric]

i dont see how someone can eat a steak, but yet be against abortion. maybe thats just my line of reasoning. anyway, im pro-choice. Late-term abortions are sickening and barbaric, tho.
Im also all for mass sterilization.