Have Big Problem need opinions

[Porkchop]

Ha, thanks Lulu...my third wife's a charm...

Beating her up emotionally, not physically. You found something out and now you are torturing yourself with images and also beating her up with words. You are now at a crossroad in your relationship. It wouldn't hurt to do some relationship counseling. Most therapists work on a sliding scale, so it could be as little as $25 a week.
But you can also just decide to start over with her. Let go of the past and pick some upcoming day as the new beginning of your relationship.
'Dude, if you screw up with this girl, then what is your next GF doing right at this moment? You can learn to let things go and move on, or face a lifetime of bad thoughts.

We have talked about therapy, but I just can't let this go that easily, it is in my brain 24/7, and im fucking sick of thinking about this shit.. Has anyone else faced the same problem? If yes, how did u handle it? What was the outcome?

[RidingHigh]

Yea man my current girlfriend is always talking about her Ex's and what they did, it drives me nutz but shes with me now and im a better man then they were. Not quit the same thing but i felt like id share.

[RidingHigh]

We just had our first official Sunset together out on the lake tonight=) it was awesome, a natural high we sat there for hours just talking and holding hands feel like a 15-16 year old again=P even tho shes the one in my signature i forgave her=P

[RidingHigh]

i meant to say not quite*

[KronicKing]

i dont think you actualy love her,if you did you would put your love before your lust,think about what you call love and think about wether or not it really is love

[HighTimeStoner]

I dont think its the cheating for him as much as it is the lying.
If together she may or may not cheat but if you were always up front she should have been with you also.
However your a dude and to most dudes its ok to cheat but not for the girls as guys have some kinda ego trip.
Like thinking if your a better lover if your dick is bigger or nicer then his/thiers etc...
Well plain and simple it isnt going to get any better and if you ask her who the better lover is of course she will say you are and will tell him he is.
Not so much as to lie about it but to not hurt eithers feelings.
Think of it this way she had fucked guys before she meet you.
As long as you werent tapping sloppy seconds and she was clean then you shouldnt have a problem.
However if your ego wont let you cope then say fuck it and roll out.
anyways its just sex and the relationship is with you so either enjoy the fruits or say fuck it.
Later

[RidingHigh]

man Kronic ur very blunt=P

[KronicKing]

i dont mean to hurt anyones feeling at all but i think it could save him alot more greif in the long run,i dont think it would have been good to sugar coat it,sometimes an easy let down is a good thing but not(i think) in situations like this.once again sorry if i offend anyone or make anyone feel worse(feeling shitty sucks and feeling worse doesnt help)

[RidingHigh]

dident mean it like that i just meant ur very blunt its nice to see someone who doesent suger coat everything.

[KronicKing]

oh,ok,but still dont want anyone getting the wrong vibes