Have Big Problem need opinions

[SomeDude]

you probably shouldn't be moving in together. People yell and scream all day about how much they love each other, but they do horrible shit to each other. It sounds like you both are not ready to have this relationship.

Love is not enough. You have to respect the other person, which neither of you has done. My advice is to end the relationship and not have another one with until you either mature or find someone who you respect enough to not fuck around on and who can do the same for you.

It doesn't really matter that you're apart for a few months. You both knew about this situation beforehand and apparently decided you can handle it, so that's no excuse.

[RidingHigh]

I mean like your dick is only dick she be touching=P

[9ski9]

So now all day everyday all I can think about is her fucking other guys and it is really hurting me inside...I can't quit thinking about the other guys...

When you move in with someone, shouldn't it be because you can't stand being apart? You are about to commit to someone and you have a huge issue between you. You need to step back. Live apart. Maybe make an agreement to exclusively date each other and take it really slow. Without the pressure of living together.

'Dude, we all go through with "The Roster". A roster is the list of people you've screwed. It's never easy. I still remember hearing my wife's roster. I listened, cringing, asked shitty questions, then got over it. She just wanted a number, but I needed details. Then it was over.

Your relationship has a chance if you can both look at those years as what they really were: living very far apart and living separate lives.

[Porkchop]

I still remember hearing my wife's roster. I listened, cringing, asked shitty questions, then got over it. She just wanted a number, but I needed details.

Same here, She just wanted a number, but I had to know all the details, and we have been talking about it for days, and I got alot of details, but there is more questions about the details I think of everyday, and I know she is getting sick of answering all of my stupid questions about details!

[9ski9]

Yeah, she'll get sick of it really fast. But it's your problem now... either get over it, or move on. Do you feel like you can trust her from this day on? Does she want to be exclusive? If so, then the ball's in your corner.

In the early stages of my current relationship, I decided to screw her better than anyone else could have; go down on her better; tickle her better; cook a meal better; and, eventually, love her better.

I now consider every guy she'd been with a weenie-ass pussy loser, not worth a minute of my time.

You have the power to stop thinking about the bad stuff. It can be a very hard thing to do, but it is possible. Beating her up for things you both did in the past will destroy any chances you have. It sounds like you are getting close to doing that.

[Firebrand]

well if u didnt want her fucking other guys u shouldnt fuck other girls lol i believe my gf has never fucked any other guys because i dont do shit with any other girls but i still feel like shes lieing -.-....er sry lol got off topic...well if u dont want her doing something just dont do it urself and visa versa, learn off each other and....fuck if i know, too busy thinking about the fat sack im getting tonight lol sry bro

[Porkchop]

Yeah, she'll get sick of it really fast. But it's your problem now... either get over it, or move on. Do you feel like you can trust her from this day on? Does she want to be exclusive? If so, then the ball's in your corner.

In the early stages of my current relationship, I decided to screw her better than anyone else could have; go down on her better; tickle her better; cook a meal better; and, eventually, love her better.

I now consider every guy she'd been with a weenie-ass pussy loser, not worth a minute of my time.

You have the power to stop thinking about the bad stuff. It can be a very hard thing to do, but it is possible. Beating her up for things you both did in the past will destroy any chances you have. It sounds like you are getting close to doing that.

Yes, I feel like if we move in together I will be able to trust her again. In the beginning I screwed her to get a nut, but after a month and I decided I really cared about her so I started fucking her better and going down on her better, she says that I am the best lover she has ever had even better than those other guys she fucked, which I really believe, cause I made it better. But it just makes me sick to picture her with some other guy while she was telling me she wasn't for 4 fucking yrs..If u read my first thread I explained that I always told her about the other girls when she asked me, but she didn't even do that!! What do u mean that im getting close to beating her up for things we both did in the past? Elaborate pls..

[Lulu]

Yeah, she'll get sick of it really fast. But it's your problem now... either get over it, or move on. Do you feel like you can trust her from this day on? Does she want to be exclusive? If so, then the ball's in your corner.

In the early stages of my current relationship, I decided to screw her better than anyone else could have; go down on her better; tickle her better; cook a meal better; and, eventually, love her better.

I now consider every guy she'd been with a weenie-ass pussy loser, not worth a minute of my time.

You have the power to stop thinking about the bad stuff. It can be a very hard thing to do, but it is possible. Beating her up for things you both did in the past will destroy any chances you have. It sounds like you are getting close to doing that.

Listen to this guy, he knows wot he's talking about

cool post btw

[maryjanemama]

Porkchop, I think the only reason she didn't tell you from the very beginning what she had done was because she knew how bad it felt to listen to the things you had done. Really I think she was trying to spare you all the details and how shitty they would make you feel. Then, she started to feel guilty, especially with moving in together gettting nearer and nearer, so she spilled her guts.

Just do what 9ski9 said, he's been there, do everything better than any other guy could. You obviously love her, you two will both get over it eventually.

If you have to know details, ask her what she liked about the other guys, but only if you can stand it. If it will kill you, don't ask, but, if you can, listen to her, you might learn some things about her that you never knew before. You can learn what really turns her on, and past the sexual part, you may learn how she really wants to be treated. Once you know what she likes, you will be the only one who can satisfy her, in bed, and in every other aspect.

[9ski9]

Yes, I feel like if we move in together I will be able to trust her again. In the beginning I screwed her to get a nut, but after a month and I decided I really cared about her so I started fucking her better and going down on her better, she says that I am the best lover she has ever had even better than those other guys she fucked, which I really believe, cause I made it better. But it just makes me sick to picture her with some other guy while she was telling me she wasn't for 4 fucking yrs..If u read my first thread I explained that I always told her about the other girls when she asked me, but she didn't even do that!! What do u mean that im getting close to beating her up for things we both did in the past? Elaborate pls..

Ha, thanks Lulu...my third wife's a charm...

Beating her up emotionally, not physically. You found something out and now you are torturing yourself with images and also beating her up with words. You are now at a crossroad in your relationship. It wouldn't hurt to do some relationship counseling. Most therapists work on a sliding scale, so it could be as little as $25 a week.
But you can also just decide to start over with her. Let go of the past and pick some upcoming day as the new beginning of your relationship.
'Dude, if you screw up with this girl, then what is your next GF doing right at this moment? You can learn to let things go and move on, or face a lifetime of bad thoughts.