this is a very interesting thread to read. all age groups talking honestly. pretty cool. i just want to add that i grew up with alot of self esteem... a result of my family, friends, and sports. i think that anybody who responsibly smokes a little weed and doesn't let it effect his life in a negative way and can function in life without anybody ever knowing, then that person will be fine. good grades, college, and a future. chillin with a little bud in between aint no bad thing. i wouldn't tell my parents or walk around proud of being a stoner or a fuck up. but chill and toke when the time is right. nobody will be the wiser. people who are showing off how fucked they are are the ones with low self esteem and will probably end up a fuck up stoner. plenty of people i know get good grades, are peer leaders, play sports, are active in church and the community and SPARK IT UP after their done.