I can't say I agree with smoking not to get fucked up. Maybe I'm just shallow or just a novice smoker (about 3 years or so) but I do it to have a good time or enjoy it. Nothing drastic like fiending for a high..but I like the feeling it gives me (how it fucks me up). I think both of your points are more similar than different just expressed with different words..

Oh yeah..as for girls that smoke..they're few and far between in the circle of people I hang with. I'm sure they're out here but I just haven't found em yet