wow i used to have this problem too.. so dont worry. it took me a while. the problem is - everyone just assumes that you are born a pothead and sometimes - unless you ask.. no one takes the time to teach you .. they just pass you the joint and you are like, "oh shit what do i do?" haha. i agree with thelion.. dont press your lips against it.. like when its still a joint joint.. pucker your lips around the end of it without touching it and suck.. then whenever it gets smaller.. dont worry about putting your lips around the joint as much as sorta beside it.. then just suck in and you get smoke from the front and the back