girl issues

[easton]

Alright here is the scoop....

I have been friends with this one girl for years now. I liked her for the longest time, but she always had this one boyfriend. Last summer she cheated on him with me and then went back to him, kinda led me on. I told her on many occasions how much I liked her and everything but it didnt feel like she gave me the time of day....so......

Now I have this girl who really likes me now and my "friend" is mad at me and she said "you chose this girl over our friendship?" I was like whoah. The girl has a boyfriend, so why the F would it be such a big deal, and why couldnt we still be friends? I told her that I never liked her boyfriend and I didnt let that get in the way of us being friends.

I liked that girl for the longest time, and she never gave a shit. I am not gonna let her decide who I can see. I just dont understand!

Well for those of you who read that could you just tell me what you would do? And try to give an explanation to why my friend is doin this!

I just dont know what to think anymore!

easton Reviewed by easton on 05-22-2005. girl issues Alright here is the scoop.... I have been friends with this one girl for years now. I liked her for the longest time, but she always had this one boyfriend. Last summer she cheated on him with me and then went back to him, kinda led me on. I told her on many occasions how much I liked her and everything but it didnt feel like she gave me the time of day....so...... Now I have this girl who really likes me now and my "friend" is mad at me and she said "you chose this girl over our Rating: 5

[DonnieDarko]

Your making the right decision to see the see the "second" girl on your own terms. Don't let your "friend" control you.

As for an explanation, I cannot explain the mind of this female. For that I believe you need the advice of another female. Proceed with caution.

[Juggalotus]

WoW! this actually happend to some one else besides me? I have a friend exactly like what ur talking about, shes had the same boyfriend for 3 years and I liked her way before. Anyways, She always cheats on him with me and says that he'll never make her happy if they get married. I'm like well why dont you break up with him and go out with me? She said, b/c her family is so attached to this guy that they would disown her. Her family knows me and i've been to her house many occations, and they dont know a thing about what we do. She got sooo pissed when i got a girlfriend. But now that I dont have a girlfriend were back to being a thing called "Friends with Benefits" I dont know why she does it, she wouldnt even explain the whole thing to me, b/c she didnt know it herself. Its very strange, and for you man, keep seeing ur girlfriend...The chances of her leaving the other guy is not worth your time. (Right now, me and my Friend with benefits are still doing stuff together, but she already told me that she'll never leave her current boyfriend.) Dont follow in my footsteps, man i wasted like 6 months trying to be with her. Now we are just friends, who do more than hang out.

[Cheery Cherry]

Hmmm, sounds to me like she is being really selfish with you. She won't leave her boyfriend for you, but you can't have a girlfriend? WTF? That's soo uncool. She is clearly jealous! She sees the other girl as a threat...I wouldn't waste your time on this girl until she grows up a bit and let HER miss having you as a friend.

[easton]

thanks guys...keep the replies coming, I dont know what I would do without your advice!

Hey Juggalotus
The only difference between our situations is that her family hates her boyfriend, I drink beer with her dad alot and talk about how much we hate her boyfriend. Its funny, her family wishes she would have woke up and dated me, while she had the chance....

[amberler]

Girls always try this sort of thing (although not all).
They like a Mr Reliable someone who offers them security and consistency. This is who you are to her. While she wants all the perks of a steady sensible boyfriend she isn't going to give them back. She knows you like so she knows she can keep you to heel until she has had enough of exiciting and slightly naughtier boys than yourself. You are her banker basically. I would recommend trying to get both of them into bed or failing that see your new lady if your friend doesnt like it is she really a friend?

[Reefer Rogue]

Dude, don't let that friend control you man. If you wanna go hit that shit, then fuckin do it. SHe has no right to even attemp to control you and why would you take it from bitch ass. End transmission.

[easton]

Thanks for the advice guys, it really puts things in perspective!

[virus]

situation sucks but balls in your court now if you didn't have a girlfriend she knew that she could always call you up an you'd come runnin dont mean this in a bad way but you were her back up an now your movin on with your life she probably realises you aint goin to come runnin to her whenever she chooses

[justinsane]

yeah, you gotta tell her whats what, she never gave you the chance you wanted, so you should be free as a fuckin bird