Hey you two. A lot depends on strain (look at online seed bank, most have descriptions of the kind of high, such as Couch Lock). Couch lock is what you want to lower anxiety & help you sleep, also relive pain such as arthritis, nerve damage & muscle spasams. When the bud was harvested is the next thing to look at. Harvest while bud is still young, trichromes clear, will you give you a more energised high, & raise anxiety if you're prone to it. Mature bud, some milky trichromes, some amber, gives you the kind of high you two would appreciate, mellow & relaxing. The fact neither have u have smoked for a while is also partly to blame, so take it slow & work on finding where your limit lies. Go online, & from the seed banks descriptions, make yourselves list of what you like. Then when you're ready for your next purchase you'll know what to look for. Hope this helps