One of you have to be the better person! You have to start somewhere. I am sure he understands he has not been there for you. I do recall your previous post of this matter. I guess this is one for Bigsby & dads and all thier infinite wisdom. Ease yourself in and be better than him. You don't have to spoil the special holidays you've had planned on being there. Tell him he needs to start slow and take you to lunch. Don't say much and make your polite list of what you would really like to say. I believe most things can be worked out if aired. Some things-just hopeless.

You are a fine daughter and he'd be proud of you. Except, he had little to do with the tuff times you have survived. You need to politely tell him, in person! It may be touch and go for awhile. But, ultimately your need to follow your feelings! Any help? pr
painretreat Reviewed by painretreat on . Daddy issues... Just got into it with my pops, and said some pretty mean stuff. He left my life when I was four and has only stopped in for a couple hours ever few years. Today he called me and invited me to "family Christmas" with his wife, her daughter, and her two kids. I been holding how I feel inside me for years, and tonight I finally snapped. So I'm sitting here on my couch, with my bowl, and some ice cream, feeling awefull about it. How can I fix this? I can't take the words I said to him back, Rating: 5