Grow up already

[bigsby]

When she told me... no seriously I don't know. For a guy I think it has more to do with where you are as an individual. I waited to get married because I realized that as a youth I was too wild and stupid (in the moment) and like anything else worth keeping I would have screwed it up. I was traveling the world and was determined to stay single although a few tried to get a ring on me. Once I got older it became more of a rational decision. We, too, have biological clocks. I didn't want newborns in my 50s! Then I met this girl, 12 yrs. my junior, beautiful, smarter than me (almost), funny as shit, and full of direction. And I just knew. We spent three years together before getting engaged. It was just the right fit. 10 years, 2 kids and going strong. There - hows that?

[painretreat]

:kisslove: Bigsby-Very nice, thanks for sharing your answer!

[prettygirlsmokes420]

Yes bigs, thank you for your sharing. That was what I was looking for.
What if I get asked and I'm not ready still?

Any married females?
When did Yall know you were ready?

That whole Candy scenario got me thinking.
I havnt even really lived my life yet.
I was so worried about other prioritys when I turned seventeen and moved out.
I was seventeen with a job, taking college classes, and making house payments on a three bedroom house.
I didn't have much time to party or what not.

So much to think about... About what age do most females do most of their maturing, cuz I mighta caught the memo a bit early.

[bigsby]

17 with a mortgage? Good for you. I did college from home and then hit the road. Got rid of everything except what fit in a backpack and went to Europe and then the Middle East. Took me 15 years to get home on any permanent basis. I did manage to fit in grad school but there was no time for commitment beyond the semi-serious GF thing.

No one can give you the answer on this. My only comment would be that there should be no question marks in the margins if you know what I mean.

[prettygirlsmokes420]

Well, I figured that if I'm questioning it, its probly not right.
If I feel I'm not being supported enough emotuonally or mantally, than its probly not right.
Ya know
I shouldn't be arguing about a silly post just hecause he has a diff. Opinion about curing, I shouldn't have to build my own space to grow just because he's stubborn and wants to grow his way in his space.
I'm thinkin maybe its time for me to become independant once again....

[GaGrown]

Well, I figured that if I'm questioning it, its probly not right.
If I feel I'm not being supported enough emotuonally or mantally, than its probly not right.
Ya know
I shouldn't be arguing about a silly post just hecause he has a diff. Opinion about curing, I shouldn't have to build my own space to grow just because he's stubborn and wants to grow his way in his space.
I'm thinkin maybe its time for me to become independant once again....

Daddys here for ya,Boo!

Ga.

[bigsby]

I agree with all of that except the grow space bit. Every man needs his own grow space!

[painretreat]

:joint1:Come on now fellows, if it isn't the garage for a Man Cave, it should be 'game on!'

I know men that have a very nice grow in garage and have 'their' space in it for watching football, phone calls, grazing all the different strains of seeds they've collected, porn collection of trichome pictures and every tool for ingesting pot known to man (woman). And they are allowed in the kitchen to bake, as well. Seems, a lot of men are better bakers than a lot of us women! If the space is limited though, sharing works. Sometimes, we can be too independent. I can't stand the 'dah, I dunno women' that depend on men to survive. But, we do love their company--the vibrater can wear out, ya know!

We base our realtionships on 'compatability.' If we get along with them, that is all that matters. No fighting over dumb ass stuff. If it is peaceful - that can be great. Do a lot of things while you can, with him. Between grows, go camping, hiking and all the things you seem drawn too. Check out your inner self. Make a list of all the things you want to do and start going all out now. Cause, wez all going to wanna do more before we cannot!

PGS420, take a lot of time to stop and smell the Rose's. Men do take 'grooming' and time to realize things. You did read Bigsby Post to Kayla. He is so right on!

I too was on my own at 17 and going to college. But, I did do a party thing, every other week-end (due to work reqs) and I had a fng ball in college. I love to party and life should be a party. But, I take my responsiblities very seriously and have owned my own home since college! "Girl Cave-with menables in it!" You can be too independent from that kind of responsibility, too young.

It takes some very good weed and a lot of introspection to really get in touch with what you really want for yourself. And that is what we all want for you! Decide your future now. Set goals. You met most goals expected of you by 17. Its downhill from there for responsibility you met those requirements don't cage yourself into it.

These men carefully selected their wifes here. Many just get married because the sex was good and then after the "honeymoon" phase want to move on. And oops, now there are children and 'we have to stay together for the kids! Which is total bullshit! Nothing worse! Always Plan your escape. You are entitled to a good time, even when in a committed relationship. Pot makes that even more fun!

You live your life too adult and one day, you will be that adult and miss your childhood. I say take in a lot of Sativa and It's Never Too Late to Have a Happy Childhood! Get started now! We are waiting to hear about it. You can be responsible and enjoy and milk the sap outta life! Cause, I expect you to leave this planet, kicking and screaming-I am still having fun at the age of 114! One more:bigsmoke: please?? I am not done yet. . . Your assignment for this week is. . .on your day of rest from work, just go somewhere and join with some others and start meeting new people! Expand your options! :rasta: pr

oh and one tip for you...closed minded--closed heart!