:twocentson't know how long you two (four) have been together, but weigh his good quality against the bad! Give each a # like 10 the worst. And this is a TEN easily. The two of you may have much bigger issues!

Most people 'blindly' follow with the knowledge and skills they grew up with! It takes work to "grow out of that!" But, first it takes 'acknowledgement.' Assuming your bf has at least a high school education and is, let say under 25, he may have some time before he figures this out! He may never. But, you cannot be the one to point this out to him, or you are too contolling! Like a butterfly, he needs to spread his wings: Which, living in his own home (with or without you) will allow him some, 'grow up time!'

Personally, life is a project. There are times we seem more "intuitive" with introspection and choose to grow. Other times, we simply want to coast. Hopefully, the two of you will get in "sync" or things will change.

No one likes a loafer, but my bet is: Keep the witch out of your garden, since no one really likes her anyway!

Talking dow about ones relatives can only spark a fire that has no extinguisher! You may want to CHOOSE to totally IGNORE this and deal with the more immediate problems. His dad can be with whom he please's and he can totally IDEALIZE his dad! That is so totally ALLOWED! Don't mess with family and your relationship will endure!

Now, if there are other issue's between you two. . . what are they?
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Cause my experience says: Totally Shut Up or lose him! Since, I have heard nothing negative of himself, he seems fine to me!

As time passes, so will his Dad and you will feel bad! Pick on the things you can change, if that is what you need to do. He ain't killing the plants with the foil, so let it pass! I'd just enjoy each day and :smokin: pr

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