Stuck in the 'friend' zone...

[RIP ODB]

Hey-

I don't often turn to the internet for girl advice but at this point I have no choice.

To make a long story short, there is a girl who I have been friends with for a few years. I'm talking about I was friends with her back when she was still ugly.

Now she's fine and I don't want to be just friends with her. Turns out being that platonic friend is the closest thing to being gay. Nothing against gays, but I'm sick of being platonic friends. This has happened to me before and I am ashamed to say I don't have the game to get out of the friend zone here.

Here are my questions for you people -

1. Should I even bother to try and break that "friend" barrier? If so, how the fuck am I supposed to do that?

or

2. Should I just stay friends with her and look elsewhere?

BONUS QUESTION FOR REAL PIMPS ONLY-

*** How can I still be friends with her, but get the "benefits"?? That would be the ideal situation.


Any help at all is appreciated, I am out of ideas here.

Thanks in advance.

-Russell

RIP ODB Reviewed by RIP ODB on 05-04-2005. Stuck in the 'friend' zone... Hey- I don't often turn to the internet for girl advice but at this point I have no choice. To make a long story short, there is a girl who I have been friends with for a few years. I'm talking about I was friends with her back when she was still ugly. Now she's fine and I don't want to be just friends with her. Turns out being that platonic friend is the closest thing to being gay. Nothing against gays, but I'm sick of being platonic friends. This has happened to me before and I Rating: 5

[XTC]

Dude. You somewhere made a wrong turn. A big misdirection. Have you asked her or hinted to her that you wanted to be more than friends. Girls have that classic saying "It's me, Not you" if she says that you if you tell her how you really feel, all hope is lost. Sorry to say

[RIP ODB]

lol I know, I fucked up. But I swear she was never cute til about a year or so ago. Anyways I'm not gonna like pour my heart out to her like some pussy and start talking about puppy dogs, rainbows and the like.

Anyways Im pretty sure she doesnt know im attracted to her.

does this help me out at all?

-DB

[Reefer Rogue]

Man, once you get in that friend zone it's really hard to get out of it. My advice would be to try and hit that anyway. Just be all cocky and funny around her and tease her. Friends with benefits are awesome, but hard as hell to find. The only advice i can come up with here is to be direct with her, don't lead her on, tell her you want to be friends with benefits and not get emotionally envolved. Truth is, it's probably already to late to turn it around so you can get some play, but that doesn't mean it's impossible. Give it a go, what do u have to lose? She won't stop being your friend because you want to get with her. Good luck bro.

[justinsane]

try to make a move, slowly, and gradually, but just remember once you cross that line theres no turnin back... ( just make sure you want to risk the friendship for some ass... )

[Kid Dynamite]

mm...even if you get into a situation like friends with benefits, often shell end up getting more attached, and then you can get into some trouble.

[Bwueh]

Yeah for the money question on the benefits. Yo if she is attracted to you at all all you gotta do is chill with her 24/7 and be the only guy she is with. If you keep a good mood between you she's gonna get horny eventually and she's gonna want it. Joke with her about it.

[Encatuse]

Man, once you get in that friend zone it's really hard to get out of it.

Yeah. That's pretty much the jist of it.

Read some david deangelo. Look it up under documents on limewire. It's like a short class on women.

Edit: yeah, definately do the above.

[Reefer Rogue]

Yea man i get those double your dating email newsletters too. I would buy the book but i'm poor. That guy is a genius.

[Encatuse]

Reefer rogue: Got an email with a good attachment size limit? ((gmail, for example)) Hotmail would work too.