The secret to controlling such behaviors depends largely on the individual (it differs from person to person). You could, like Psychocat said, undergo training in the martial arts. However, if you are prone to violence you should tell your instructor. That way he/she can closely monitor your training to make sure that you are infact learning to control the aggression that haunts you in your daily life.

"Why" (is always an excellent question).

1) By losing sight of the control aspect of whatever discipline you are training in, you have just made yourself a deadly weapon in the eyes of the law; meaning that a simple bar-room altercation can and will be seen as a felony assault. That means: Ta Da!!!! LOCK UP!!! Lock Down!!!

2) A belt doesn't make you tough. Just because you are learning to attack and defend doesn't mean you should go to the local pub looking to try out what you just learned in a training exercise on whomever decides to "mean mug" you from across the way. Even more simply put: Because you have been given a belt for doing well in the dojo doesn't garauntee that you won't get the teeth slapped out of your face on the street.

3) Avoiding dramatic situations that could lead stressful or violent situations. Sometimes you have to be the one to use your brain and common sense, with a little foresight can go a long way. Get the fug out of Dodge before you snap!!! This includes choosing your associations a little better (i.e: Ranging from some maxi-pad that hangs out with a good friend that comes around smoking your stash and never throws in, to some recent member of the opposite sex who is great in bed, but get's under your skin).

4) Controlled breathing!!!! When all else fails and you are on the verge of mass murder: Take a deep breath...through a Gravity Bong! (1 set of 2-3 reps) it always turns that frown upside down in a hurry.

Knowing yourself is the first step in controlling yourself.

I hope I have been helpful. This is just my opinion...I could be wrong.
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