i'm a 21 year old stoner in california. my entire family knows i smoke, with the exception of my brother(11) and my grandparents(70's). nobody really cares, because they all did it before. its just sort of a wink and nod type of thing. as long as my brother doesnt start too early no one has a problem with it.

i think what i did was just let subtle things slip to my parents over time, and they assumed i smoked before i said anything about it. and then when i "came out" it was no big deal because everyone knew already. theyre still your family after all.