so I just said fuck those scragly leaves, and chopped the plant in half at the 5th node. A good friend just happened to have an extra 400w HPS system HE DOESNT USE cause he quit growing, and is letting me borrow it for an indefinite amount of time. I dont know if this is normal, but in the 4 hours the newly topped plant has been under the HPS, the small leaves close to the nodes DOUBLED in size and the entire plant has perked up a ton. It's looking like its going to turn out ok.
keepin my fingers crossed hoping for a female!!