ok.thanks,the trust thing is what it comes down to on seeing his grow. i am suppose to strust him,and i think it should go both ways...how can i confirm its all organic and if he is the one auctualy growing it if i cant see it?? I am not complaining on what i have going on w/ the DP so far,just want to make i dont screw myself and get comfortable w/ everything and then find out 5 years later i have been taken for alot of $$$$.. We all know the feeling when we feel we were cheated,wether intentional or non-intentional..:jointsmile: