Quote Originally Posted by dark0ne
The thing about parents is they want whats best for you, and even though your old enugh to be on your own they still look at you as their child. You can't come in like gangbusters demanding this and that it wont work. so wait a bit, and the next time they are home. Invite them to lunch at your place, or someplace comfortable. You have to come off sounding like an adult on their own. i delt with this for years and it's only been recently that i have made amends with my mother.
Unfortunately, my mom has a lot of aggression and control issues- it's been a while since this whole ordeal of me moving out has occurred, and if I stop by the house to get something, she screams and hurls very strong-worded insults at me, though I say nothing to her. When we fought, I NEVER uttered a word of personal insult or any sort of demeaning language towards her- it was very difficult, but I kept repeating that we cannot get along without some outside help, and I've made my mind up about this, etc.

My siblings are all in complete agreement that she has some serious psychological issues going on. I don't really want to delve more into why she's like that- it's rather complicated- but at best, she is a manipulative controlling egomaniac.

My father wants what's best for me, but my mom is just furious because I am no longer under her control.