Pictures would be a big help, but you're going to need to find out the ph of your wellwater. -Rusty Trichrome-
here are the pics they show one of the plants that is showing the symptoms the hardest.

also it will show a couple views of the whole setup and also some pics of leaves from random plants that show the problems i am having
thanks for the support and patience with a n00b like me

i have come to the conclusion that many of the problems were related to over-watering as the plants seem to be coming out of it by themselves but now i am wondering if i am over/under feeding my girls 2 days till 3 weeks of flowering.. am i on schedule?
more pics to come
-j