Hey man im almost in the same situation as you are. Well im actually starting to come out of it. I was really shy all thorough school. I went to only a few dances and they weren't ones that you go out first. I havent slept with any girls at all. Ive only kissed one girl twice and that was because she was pretty much making all the moves on me. Ive never had a real girlfriend. There was this one girl i was kinda seeing and i would put my arm around her and shit when we were watching a movie. Anyway after a few nights of hanging out, i knew i had to make a move on her and kiss her cause i knew she wanted me too, but me being very unexperienced, i didnt. I just let myself like her too much and i got too nervous. Well after that, she kinda lost interest with me and we stopped talking. Its just like encatuse said "You can't be 'scared of losing her', or else you've pretty much already lost her." Its true. Meeting girls and talking to girls in a way that makes them interested in you doesnt happen over night. You gotta work at it and slowly you become attractive by talking and acting. One thing that ive done first of all, is never let myself like a girl too much. I try to say things that might make me a little nervous cause i know im kinda shy and that helps me out. Ill flirt with girls at my work by saying stuff. Theres this pretty hot mexican girl at my work and sometimes ive said hasta luego bonita. In case u dont know spanish, thats like saying see ya later and calling her pretty too. I dont know. I just try to think of stuff to say and do. Girls like to be tickled. Then if they say something like stop with a smile like they arent mad, id say something like "you know you like it". If you ever use bit torrent, download the book 'double your dating' at www.torrentspy.com. If you dont use it, get it at www.bittorrent.com. all you download is, is a reader that will open a .torrent file. its kinda like the same way acrobat reader works. I downloaded the book and it really boosted my confidence up. Seriously when you read the book, you will feel like a different person. It has boosted my self esteem up more than anything anyone has ever told me. Anyway just be confident and dont be shy at all. Girls dont like shy guys too much. Well all i can say is u should get that book. It will help u out.