It is a hermie for sure, there are/were lots of white hairs along the main stem... some of them are still there, but as pollen sacks started bursting on it a week or 2 ago, most of the hairs are kinda shrivling up and retreating back into the calyxes.

it does look kinda crappy though and i have some serious doubts as to if it will produce any decent seeds... i've considered just killing it a couple times over the last week... but since it is my first hermie i figured i should just let it go as a learning experience, its not really doing any harm where it is, and i;m not too concerned about accidental pollenation of the females since i have them on seperate floors of the house, and they are almost on completely opposite light schedules as well, so theres no real risk of pollen being transferred on my hands by going between the 2 areas, since one is in its dark cycle when the other is in its light cycle... plus i always make sure i wash my hands after working with the hermie.