If you were a daily smoker at one point why do you hang onto the notion that smoking cannabis is inherently wrong? And as far as your future wife goes, how can you have that "smoking is for sluts" sentiment? Just trying to figure out the double standard.

Anyway, if she still wants to smoke, that's fine. I'm sure you are in no way pressured into picking up the pipe again. If I may ask, what was your reason for quitting in the first place?

And you aren't bad parents for smoking weed. If you were the type who put pot before your kids I might be inclined to state the opposite. You said it yourself that alcohol makes you more "messed up" than weed so the only justification for such a statement is the simple fact that weed is illegal, that's all! Being responsible parents comes before getting stoned, but I have a feeling that won't be an issue for you as you seem like a responsible individual.