Quote Originally Posted by overgrowthegovt
I'm sure there are other people here who are chronically melancholy, and you must know what I'm talking about here...the irritating and ignorant attitude of most people towards it. I've seen it on this site, in old and very recent threads, where people who speak of feeling badly are dealt with in the wrong manner.

What most people, it seems, will say, is something about remembering you have food on the table, that others are worse off, that you should just grow/cheer up, snap out of it. And all that is true, from a detachedly logical perspective...but the thing is, it's not a fucking rational thing. Rationally, you know there's no reason to feel this way, that it's a toxic feeling that you should just get rid of, that at least you're not living in some third world mud hut. Your logical faculties listen to this, but the rest of you doesn't listen. There's this all-pervasive attitude that depressives are just self-indulgent babies, and it pisses me off. No one wants to feel that way--if there was an easy road out, it would be taken, in a second.

I don't really experience this in my personal life, because I hide it at all times, but I've seen this view on it, and it's fucked. I tried to confide in a dear friend once, who pretty much gave me all the above shit...people just don't understand. Thoughts?
I don't think people can understand unless they experienced the same things themselves. Something like social situations, some people have no qualms about it, even thrive in the environment. Others, they run away from it, they fear it, they get anxious. But when someones give an answer like that, it doesn't mean that they are trying to not be helpful and not to understand. How is someone capable of understanding unless they went through it in your own eyes?

I understand the state of constant melancholy. Even when I'm totally happy, there's apart of me with a heart that's still black. While depression may not seem rational and you don't know what is causing it, deep down, I'm sure you in some way know what it is, but you are such in deep denial about it, you don't want to admit it.

Damn right I agree with you that most of the time, people won't understand. But it doesn't discount the good intentions they have in their heart.