They will all be out of town also, even though theyre only about 4 hours away. There is a few people here that i believe are doing the same thing, but they don't know about mine and i'd like to keep it that way. I'm pretty sure this thing is female too, im just gonna keep going on the 12/12 till i leave, then maybe put a timer on it for a while or just turn it off, water it, and let it grow till it dies. It's such a pretty plant though, i feel bad just throwing it away like that.