wood, I have been on probation in NC for 10 months and I also have a female prob. officer. She has never watched me or even come in the restroom with me. I have never had to empty my pockets or wash my hands before or after unless I chose to (I do after). I have never had to wait to flush the toilet or any of that. That being said, I do know a guy on probation in the same city and he is monitored, but his male probation officer never actually watches him and only uses a 5 strip test card. BTW, we are both on probation for drug charges.
Just to let you know, I am not saying that is how yours will be all the time because my probation allows her to give me random tests and come to my house anytime and search me anytime (She has never done any onf this though).
Good Luck!!!