there is a lot more that goes into it than leading by example. that is definitely one thing that needs to be done. but the kid is 15, and is just that, a kid. he has a lot of learning and growing to do. he has to learn about his self and learn to truly accept himself for who he is and to truly love his self. maybe the kid needs to get his bell rung a couple of times. i know that sounds harsh, being your brother and all, but it's the truth, and sometimes it hurts. in his eyes, you will always have a biased view because you are his brother, older at that. you can try to talk to him, but it doesn't sound like he's very willing to listen.

does he like to read? find a way to relate to him. and use that in to get your logical, well thought out points across. not biased, because i said so, but because this is how the real world works. you have to stay on him, but don't preach. use his experiences to help him learn. lead him into answering the tough questions himself. don't spoon feed him. make him earn it, he'll appreciate it more. this is only a start. hope it helps.

-shake

edit: also remember that you being his older brother he wants acceptance from you! that can be tough on him. make sure he knows what you expect from him, what makes you proud of him. make sure he knows that you love him, are there for him and proud of him for the things he does well.
headshake Reviewed by headshake on . What to do> My little shit brother is starting to get out of control, he's 15 and thinks he is the biggest bad ass on the face of the earth. I just had to lay him out before school because he started punching fuckin holes in the wall and getting out of control.. Shitty situation if it wasen't my family it'd be easy because I wouldn't worry as much about what was gonna happen and just do something.. Bleh. Now he's refusing to go to school, failing out and just has a general i am a bad ass attitute and Rating: 5