Wow, i just read this and am blown away in the resemblance of your family and mine..i wish i had been a member when this was going on so that we coulda talked there it, cuzz im sure we would have MANY similar cases that we coulda see different viewpoints on..
My problem is that now that i have been on my own for almost 10 years the problems i had in my family have came back to bite me in the ass when i need to be the "adult" im have trouble.
I reecently(last 2.5-3yrs) have found the miracle the cannabis plant holds deep within it, and notice that it helps me threw the days..
Good luck to you..