Need Advice

[skunke]

I was wondering if anyone could post their thoughts on my issue that I am having., My sense of well being has become extreml low, i have been feeling depressed for the past 1 year, my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer last summer, this situation has changed her completly as the chemo has effected her personalty, it changed her into a monster, shes has become hostile,voilent,provocative,and manupilitive. In the past year my self well being has decreased, i have become depressed ,feel like mental capabilty has decreased (studdering when i speak) and disconected (slightly dreamy), My social life has also signifantly sufferd. I dont smoke weed that often once every couple months or so, it has really helped me when i felt extremly depressed.The solution to help myself i believe is too elimatate the stresses and negetive aspects in my life for myself.
Just wondering what your guys and gals thougths on my situaion would be!
Thanks

skunke Reviewed by skunke on 10-19-2008. Need Advice I was wondering if anyone could post their thoughts on my issue that I am having., My sense of well being has become extreml low, i have been feeling depressed for the past 1 year, my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer last summer, this situation has changed her completly as the chemo has effected her personalty, it changed her into a monster, shes has become hostile,voilent,provocative,and manupilitive. In the past year my self well being has decreased, i have become depressed ,feel like Rating: 5

[skunke]

Oh ya im a college student by the way.

[skyecatcher]

My father went through chemo and radiation with his brain tumor. He was different person completely... from age four to ninety in seconds flat. With the mood swings, the depression, the anger, resentment, hostility, love,compassion.
Just knwo you aren't alone....
Do you live with her?

[weedmaster]

we all have bad times dureing our life,it must be very difficult for your mum and you, but try and be possitive, look at anything that is good in life and focus on them,this is just a chapter in your book of life,hopefully soon the page will turn and a new chapter will begin.good luck in colledge. all my best wishes to you and your family.

[skunke]

Hey sky... yes i live with her, after so many years the scientific community confrmed the side effects of chemo and brain damage, interesting article. Suprisingle the doctors didnt tell us of any this.
Brain Damage & Chemo

[LuciferN]

The constant pain she is living is making her a monster... She still love you for sure !
Brain damage does not sound good... Hope she will be in the 18%
Try to suggest her to meditation, relax or do something like yoga. She need to canalize all this pain in something else, not anger and frustrations.

[8182KSKUSH]

I was wondering if anyone could post their thoughts on my issue that I am having., My sense of well being has become extreml low, i have been feeling depressed for the past 1 year, my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer last summer, this situation has changed her completly as the chemo has effected her personalty, it changed her into a monster, shes has become hostile,voilent,provocative,and manupilitive. In the past year my self well being has decreased, i have become depressed ,feel like mental capabilty has decreased (studdering when i speak) and disconected (slightly dreamy), My social life has also signifantly sufferd. I dont smoke weed that often once every couple months or so, it has really helped me when i felt extremly depressed.The solution to help myself i believe is too elimatate the stresses and negetive aspects in my life for myself.
Just wondering what your guys and gals thougths on my situaion would be!
Thanks

I am sorry, but you want our thoughts. Here are mine, I don't mean to offend you, and I didn't read any of the other replies, just giving you my initial thoughts right from the gut.

What I think is that you are ridiculous. :wtf:
Your mother whom raised you and provides for had cancer and chemo, and you are posting here asking us what we think about you using MMJ for "being sad or whatever". WTF? How about suggesting your mom try some MMJ?
I don't care, and you should not care what anyone thinks of you using "cannabis", for any reason. But if you are just posting here to get some kind of justification to use it for whatever reason, (that's not just you, but lots of people, please don't take this as an attack, I just think that if cannabis provides you some benefit or relief in any way, you don't need to post on a forum and ask other people if they think it sounds ok to use "MMJ". Really who cares? If you get relief or any positive benefit GOOD, you probably already know this and don't need anyone else's approval!)

But seriousely your mom may have some positive benefit from using cannabis. It just kind of makes me say WTF out loud because you described your moms situation, and then had the gall to say,

In the past year my self well being has decreased, i have become depressed ,feel like mental capabilty has decreased (studdering when i speak) and disconected (slightly dreamy), My social life has also signifantly sufferd. I dont smoke weed that often once every couple months or so, it has really helped me when i felt extremly depressed.The solution to help myself i believe is too elimatate the stresses and negetive aspects in my life for myself.
Just wondering what your guys and gals thougths on my situaion would be!
Thanks

Yeah sorry you are having such a rough year, I guess. Could be worse I guess, you know? How's your mom feeling? That's all I am going to say. I don't want to fight with you or anything, just wanted to "let you know what I think". Honestly.:wtf:
I am not trying to be mean or anything, if you are mad at my post,
1. You asked us what we think, there it is.
2. Just tell yourself I am a jerk and ignore it, becasue the point wasn't to piss you off, just to point out that you seem kind of self centered in this post.
Honestly this was just my gut reaction to reading your post.

[thcbongman]

Hey sky... yes i live with her, after so many years the scientific community confrmed the side effects of chemo and brain damage, interesting article. Suprisingle the doctors didnt tell us of any this.
Brain Damage & Chemo

There's no doubt in my mind that chemo does have some affect on mental capability, but it's not drastic nor is it detrimental. Chemo has some nasty ass side effects, but it does kill the cancer. Nothing more effective has been found otherwise. I see your issue from 2 different sides of what I experienced with cancer: being the patient then taking care of my father before he passed away last week. God bless his soul.

You are frustrated. The time you took to take care of your mom, it a lot of mental anguish. Anyone whos in your situation would be depressed and not feeling like yourself. It's painful to watch your own mom deteriorate before their eyes and feel totally helpless. You built up a lot of anger inside you and it's shown from the negative energy you feel inside.

Now you have to remember your mom is sick. She's not going to be at her best. She's suffering from pain, whether it be from side effects or sadness. Having cancer is no fun, it's a traumatizing experience. Did your mom have her breasts removed? You have to remember that your mom's image and self-worth are affected and what she needs is affection. It's the toughest thing to do, especially feeling the anguish you are. You got to be the strong one for your mom because she's going through a lot of issues. Just remember two things: love and hope. It'll keep you strong, the best thing you can do is to show her how much you love her. Life is short, it really is.

[MIDNIGHTspecial]

In my experience, when things reach their lowest point, and shit seems the worst, I always know that something good is around the corner, and like clockwork, it always is. It seems like life never lets me reach rock bottom cause once I get too close, something happens to turn it all around for me. Stay strong, something good may present itself in unexpected ways (that sounds like a fortune cookie saying but I just thought of it).

[cygnustaxt]

man, that sucks, I'm sure you're having a real hard time right now.

Here's a suggestion, do you have any hobbies? You know, like exercising, music, video games, etc...

You should find some sort of hobby that you enjoy and whenever you start getting stressed or feeling really down, go and do that hobby. For me, i have a lot of different hobbies but the main one is music. I play a lot of different instruments but whenever I'm feeling down, I'll grab my guitar and for those moments when I'm playing I tend to forget about everything else around me and just focus in on the music. Music is a great thing, you can express all of your emotions without saying a single word, just let the music speak for you.

Sorry again to hear about the troubles you're having in life, but things will get better eventually. You're just in a rough spot right now, everyone goes through times like this just know that you'll be able to get through it and everything will be better for you soon.