Curious, have you gone to couples counseling yet??? If not--GO!
If so: how is it going????

Believe it or not, being 'laid back' is a form of control! Many things you say, really need dealt with in a professional office. You need to go alone to a therapist and cut off a lot of the time for couples counseling (she should do the same). But I think you REALLY NEED TO SEE YOURSELF FOR WHAT YOU ARE. Just because you don't understand psychological help or what is considered the 'thing to do' doesn't mean you are right on every count.

Example, did you try switching from TV to loving music? Music in a house does cheer it up and when you are in better modes, it is easier to be closer! I could say so much, but it has all been said.

We are all interested in the two of you working this out. I have read this for a long time and what sticks in my mind is she is pretty and you married your trophy wife the first time and want to keep her. But, you may not feel like a trophy husband--go see what it is you really want--in therapy. YOU CANNOT FIX HER, SO YOU HAVE TO FOCUS ON THE ONLY THING YOU CAN--YOURSELF! And honey, you have a little fixin to do! And I know you can! take care PR