I'm very happy that you are taking your life in the direction that you see fit. We must be happy as individuals before we can be happy with our significant others. It sounds like you weren't happy with your personal life because of situations imposed onto you by religion and your spouse.

By talking to her in a serious fashion and not disregarding her thoughts on the matter, but rather discussing them instead, you have put yourself on the path in the right direction.

However you've stated that God has a plan for us all; I am agnostic, but a very logical thinker.. So I will say this; It is possible that God's plan was for you to go through this situation to grow and learn a life lesson, but not to remained married to this woman.

I am not advocating divorce or that you give up on her; but rather a different angle to view this at in respect to your faith and "God's Plan".

It sounds like you're finally finding solace and for that I am very happy for you. :hippy: