Quote Originally Posted by suhl
you got what you deserved for rushing into marriage. harsh, but true. you married someone you had never had sex with? that is nuts. just crazy. someone you cant even trust and have to hide things from. man what were you thinking, clearly you didn't love her if the we make horrible lovers line is an indicator, so why the hell did you marry her? just to say you had a wife? prove you werent gay? im at a loss here.
Crazy? Nuts? Right on. You Are Correct. Welcome to the world of Southern Baptists. All i can say is I was raised in an extremely conservative version of Christianity, and I bought it.

I mean, I take responsibility for it... but sometimes its tough to go against everything all your family and most of your friends go with growing up. The thing that makes a lot of Southern Baptist kids buy the faith hook line and sinker is that there is a lot of truth to the religion. Don't get me wrong, there is a lot of bullshit. But all the true Christian stuff, love your neighbor as yourself, etc... and Christ. There is so much good that is taught in His words. Then you just assume the pastors and family are right when they tell you "this verse means don't have sex before marriage", "this verse means don't 'do drugs'", etc. Sure, they teach that reading the bible for yourself is good... but no one actually does it. I am probably rare in that I read the entire Bible as a Southern Baptist and am not a pastor. Southern Baptists mostly are like a cult... they go and listen to the pastor and that's it. And so everyone just believes all the traditional distortions of the Bible that are traditionally taught.

I guess what happened, like I said, is that we started dating, we were getting along pretty well, and (at least in my case) I was probably so horny I just figured I might as well do this thing. That isn't what I was thinking specifically, but it is most likely what was going on sub-consciously. What I was thinking specifically was "why wait?" And given that we were convinced not to have sex until marriage, that was actually true. What was the point of waiting? We liked hanging out. I wasn't going to get to know her sexually by having dinner with her. Sure, we talked about sex (as much as we could without "lusting")... but when two people are dating they tend to put themselves in the best light. She of course didn't reveal any of her problems... she probably didn't even know she had them.

So... what I got was totally not what I expected. She feels the same way I'm sure. And our honeymoon night was a disaster. And it has not gotten much better (sexually). And southern baptists wonder why their divorce rate is not any lower then the rest of the world's... idiots. I was one of them though, so I'm just insulting myself I guess.

Then again, there are couples that have the best sex but can't stand to be around each other. Even with all these problems we enjoy being around each other. I don't know... right now I can't leave in good conscience. Maybe I should, for her good, even if she doesn't want me to. I don't know. There has got to be someone out there who is more compatible with her. But I just don't know.

All I know is having that stupid fucking TV off all week has been a God-send... no pun intended. It's almost worth giving up the weed. Almost. But not quite.
jsn9333 Reviewed by jsn9333 on . Told My Wife Yesterday That I Burn (Quick Background, for those of you who missed a post of mine earlier in the year: My wife and I were both "born and raised ultra-conservatives" who got married a couple years ago. We didn't sleep with each other before getting married, and have experienced a whole lot of sexual, intimacy, and emotional incompatibility. We make good friends, but horrible lovers. It's just been fucked up. But anyway, I subsequently became a bit more liberal and started to smoke pot, without telling her Rating: 5