That some story mayn.

i dont even know where to begin with... this is the problem i find with "blind religiousness" people give up their god given ability to think and become puppets of bibles, qurans, pastors, churches or Imams n mosques... i would not name religions cuz i think all religions out there as defined have been fucked with internally by humankind so they are not pure word of god imo

perhaps the true and original ones were far better than what we precieve to be the Abrahamistic religions today

anyways, the same type of brainwashing is the root cause of this Islamic extremism and suicide bombing (heaven and 72 virgins waintin on ya buddy go blow yourself up and be ride heaven express to the skies!!) its just here we are dealing with a lower level of it and in a different culture. principle is the same

however, there is nothing u can do about one's past and one's firmly held opinions... at best u will be eroding on one's mind to change her slowly and gradually... which will probably fail and hurt both parties involved.

so here is my practical thinking for this situation:

I'm by no means any expert at these things but I have a few logical ideas which might help u, use at your own risk:

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If YOU WANT to be with her or prefer to do so for whatever reason there might be some chance for you to soften her beliefs.

Just google don miguel ruiz. he's a "healer" and a "prophet" if u could call it that. and i bet most Christians will find hardly anything to disagree with in his opinions

here is a quote

Real love is accepting other people the way they are without trying to change them. If we try to change them, this means that we don't really like them. It is easier to find someone who is already the way you want him or her to be, instead of trying to change that person.

- Don Miguel Ruiz
he has occasional tours and plans, in US & Mexico which u can attend and he is known worldwide .

He has a book out there called "The Four Agreements" try to persuade your wife to read that... audiobook of this title can do wonders.:thumbsup:

thats 1 idea u could try
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somehow get her high, not on a potent sativa tho, on a mellower one, those that will have less of mind effect and heartbeat effect... this depends on her and you, u could ask her str8 up or u could just give her some brownies or in some other way trick her into trying it. she will get pissed (resistance phase) and probably mad at ya for a while or even just a few minutes... then she'll get the feelin kicking in(acceptance will kick in:thumbsup... try to make "THE BEST" 1st time experience for her talk to her keep it as relaxed as u can... experience is the best teacher of human kind. you yourself probably had a problem with weed until u tried it, did u not? in my view all conservatives as we know them in mainstream society will have a stance against marijuana by default... i am yet to see some1 who is firmly a conservative (religious type i mean) who does not have a problem with mj

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3.

somehow make her read this forum or at least this thread lol that may get ya into court and divorce, probably not a good idea but u never know how people may re-act... try to see if u can fact-feed her and undo the brainwashing... this is probably the hardest thing to do... but still an option
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4.
if u think none of this will work, kill the sick sheep(relationship) before it infects all of your cattle(your life, job, etc)... divorce is the final solution.

pain once, death one, suffering once. then u wont have a problem suffering and struggling
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shit... thats why i will never ever marry until i know what kind of a deal im getting inside out! i prefer to be looked @ as a loser living single lifestyle forever than wanting to fall into marriage trap... when the right woman is found, i will know it, with my brain and not my feelings

been in love a number of times and never worked out the way i wanted it... u cant control ppl, u gotta find an identical match and even then people may change... so u gotta find some1 who has principles of THINKING that are like yours so even if her opinion changes her base of thinking remains the same, donno how to explain it better

anyways, I wish whatever thats better for you happens and btw way to go on having the courage to assert your will for your own sake despite all the reactions. remember, as an example and imo, out of a couple one can end up in hell and one can go to heaven (assuming there are such things after life) so live YOUR life the way YOU want it... u wont be judged together thats for sure... at the end of this world and in the judgment day if there are such things again we will all stand alone for our very own actions and alone, aint nobodys momma or wife will be coming to help cuz they'll be busy with their own affairs then.

For some reason this post i just read and the glance Oprah show i had today makes me feel like she needs to put up a program about marijuana and all the misconceptions against it... if women change their minds, no1 can say no to them anymore... thats just my feeling no offense to people of opposite sex i feel females can always achieve more in group form and in struggle form than men ever will!

i'm ramblin again, so im out!