Told My Wife Yesterday That I Burn

[jayson]

im happy that you're starting to think for your self jsn. cause if you cant do that whats the point in living ?

[norkali]

Totally reminds me of American Beauty. lol

[cygnustaxt]

lol, I didn't want to say anything since this is kind of a serious thread, but I thought of that movie right after i opened this thread. Mainly the scene where he's driving rocking out to american woman and smoking a J hahah, i love American Beauty! I want some of that awesome green his neighbor had.

[zeitgeist]

You should tell your wife to read the bible.
In it, it talks about how all the herb on the earth was given for mankind to use and enjoy. It even prophecises how marijuana will become banned. But obviously these "convenient christians" will gloss over things like this. And the fact that the bible is strictly against being drunk off wine/liquor just shows how much hypocritical our christian society is because we all know how "christians" love to drink

My advice to you is to work it out with her. Conflicts make relationships stronger in the long run. Dont be weak and quit. And read the bible more, because basically every problem youll ever have has been a subject in the bible.
As for your sexual life, my advice to you is to stay away from the porn. But what does help are books that give you advice of how to make the experience more pleasurable. Sex is a BIG part of marriage. A healthy sex life will make you and your wive's life much better

Hopefully she will see the truth in marijuana and you all may be able to share this wonderful experience together

[painretreat]

Thanks for coming back and letting us know. I was thinking of you a few days ago and thought about hunting you down! Appreciate to see you are doing all the things advised, as I recall, from earlier! Nice going! :jointsmile:

[SFGurrilla]

I assume she does this on other issues you two dont agree on eather? Sucks dude, i'd snap if I lived with a women on those standards. Good luck. Sex sucks? get her to smoke some weed.

[suhl]

you got what you deserved for rushing into marriage. harsh, but true. you married someone you had never had sex with? that is nuts. just crazy. someone you cant even trust and have to hide things from. man what were you thinking, clearly you didn't love her if the we make horrible lovers line is an indicator, so why the hell did you marry her? just to say you had a wife? prove you werent gay? im at a loss here.

[suhl]

Totally reminds me of American Beauty. lol

hajhahahaha great scene

[jsn9333]

you got what you deserved for rushing into marriage. harsh, but true. you married someone you had never had sex with? that is nuts. just crazy. someone you cant even trust and have to hide things from. man what were you thinking, clearly you didn't love her if the we make horrible lovers line is an indicator, so why the hell did you marry her? just to say you had a wife? prove you werent gay? im at a loss here.

Crazy? Nuts? Right on. You Are Correct. Welcome to the world of Southern Baptists. All i can say is I was raised in an extremely conservative version of Christianity, and I bought it.

I mean, I take responsibility for it... but sometimes its tough to go against everything all your family and most of your friends go with growing up. The thing that makes a lot of Southern Baptist kids buy the faith hook line and sinker is that there is a lot of truth to the religion. Don't get me wrong, there is a lot of bullshit. But all the true Christian stuff, love your neighbor as yourself, etc... and Christ. There is so much good that is taught in His words. Then you just assume the pastors and family are right when they tell you "this verse means don't have sex before marriage", "this verse means don't 'do drugs'", etc. Sure, they teach that reading the bible for yourself is good... but no one actually does it. I am probably rare in that I read the entire Bible as a Southern Baptist and am not a pastor. Southern Baptists mostly are like a cult... they go and listen to the pastor and that's it. And so everyone just believes all the traditional distortions of the Bible that are traditionally taught.

I guess what happened, like I said, is that we started dating, we were getting along pretty well, and (at least in my case) I was probably so horny I just figured I might as well do this thing. That isn't what I was thinking specifically, but it is most likely what was going on sub-consciously. What I was thinking specifically was "why wait?" And given that we were convinced not to have sex until marriage, that was actually true. What was the point of waiting? We liked hanging out. I wasn't going to get to know her sexually by having dinner with her. Sure, we talked about sex (as much as we could without "lusting")... but when two people are dating they tend to put themselves in the best light. She of course didn't reveal any of her problems... she probably didn't even know she had them.

So... what I got was totally not what I expected. She feels the same way I'm sure. And our honeymoon night was a disaster. And it has not gotten much better (sexually). And southern baptists wonder why their divorce rate is not any lower then the rest of the world's... idiots. I was one of them though, so I'm just insulting myself I guess.

Then again, there are couples that have the best sex but can't stand to be around each other. Even with all these problems we enjoy being around each other. I don't know... right now I can't leave in good conscience. Maybe I should, for her good, even if she doesn't want me to. I don't know. There has got to be someone out there who is more compatible with her. But I just don't know.

All I know is having that stupid fucking TV off all week has been a God-send... no pun intended. It's almost worth giving up the weed. Almost. But not quite.

[KingsBlend420]

I respect you a lot for not getting a divorce with this woman, even if you have some issues that need to be sorted out. Divorce is a poor excuse for not trying. Good luck with your situation man.